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Dear Amy, Sister in Christ! Right there with ya, lady. Hold on, okay?----Tomorrow may not be BETTER....but it will at least be *different*.....there is something else waiting for you around the corner. That is sometimes what I hold on to: going to sleep and waking up the next day!
God loves you, even though you do not feeeeeeeeeeeeeel it. Praying for you!
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amy,  i am praying for you.
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Praying for you.
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sending prayers, Amy!
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Praying for you, for resolution and, meanwhile, peace in the midst.
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Praying for you Amy, dear.
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Amy,
I know how you feel. I was (or maybe am) there and I sold out and started working in the mornings while my husband is home with the kids.
I know you feel lonely, but know that I am joining you in your prayers for strength, support, wisdom, and a listening ear.
Pax,
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Oh, Amy I'm so glad you posted and didn't delete a 6th time!!!! There is so much power in prayer...it can be a conduit of such grace!
Loneliness feels isolating, but we're holding you in prayer - you're not alone. Feeling crushed is not foreign to me either. May Our Lady, whose peace must have surely been threatened by thoughts and insecurities on that hasty flight into Egypt, be your gentle and constant companion as you ponder in your heart.
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Amy,
God may be calling on you to do something to turn this around. I couldn't say what, but I had a similar thing happen to me and God was calling me to push past or get over something that was holding me back. I had to ask Him what it was, and He let me know subtly. It is taking me a while to get through it, but I'm learning. I have had to deal with the isolation too and can say that having all of the For Real ladies to come to has been so good for me. I feel for you Amy and pray that God show you the fruits of your labor soon to encourage you to continue on your path.
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I'm glad we are able to suffer together, Amy. I'm pretty convinced that God can simply ask us to carry a mysterious cross...one that we can't fix...often very private...one we can't discuss in detail with others...a cross all alone. I'm praying for you and that you can rest in His great love, mercy, and providence. He loves you very much. That's enough.
"Your reward in heaven will make up completely for all your pain and suffering." St. John Bosco
Love,
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Elizabeth's blog post today really spoke to me in my brokenness (esp. the last three paragraphs), I wanted to share it in case it could help anyone else:
Surrender: Find God
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Amy, love, , and prayers.
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Praying for you, Amy.
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Praying, dear Amy!!!!
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praying dear Amy ... and may Mary's mantle wrap round you and warm your heart and prayers!
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Praying, Amy.
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Sneaking this in here because I don't want to draw any more attention to myself than I already have  ...but I just need someone to hold up this particular intention in prayer: today someone (family) I hold dear asked to borrow $3K from me. Then backed off and told me not to tell my dh. We *have* the money, it's in the savings we had towards a new house, that's not the problem. The problem is this person has been horrible with money all his life and has been asking for multiple thousand dollar loans from people for ages. But if I DON'T give it to him, he and his family suffers. Basically I'm furious that we have lived with borrowed/yucky furniture, never going out, etc in order to have this savings, and he can spend willy-nilly and have everyone else pay the price...if not with money, then with withdrawl of his love, etc if we don't "give". Plus, one of the virtues I hold most dear is generosity. It hurts me to give the money, and it hurts me NOT to give. I want to crawl in a hole. And I can't even tell my dh why.
Thanks for listening. Sorry to dump, but I'm desperate for someone to listen and understand.
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Oh, Amy. Wish I was there to support you. I have absolutely NO problem telling people "no" when it comes to money. That's called leeching and it's very bad not only to you but for that person. That person takes no responsibility for how he uses his money. And he abuses his family in the process. If he "withdraws his love" so be it. In the end, he'll respect you more if you stand firm. Lots of . I know you'll do the right thing for him and for your family. It's not that you're stingy, it's that you're helping him learn how to be responsible and the only way he can do that is by taking control of his own finances.
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Amy,
and, otherwise, what Tina said. Praying for clear discernment about what you should do.
Peace,
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Oh, Amy...I've been thinking of you!
First, I will pray!!!!! May God's will always and everywhere be done!
You have such a generous spirit, Amy, and I'm not the only one that senses and notices that!!! Your family member is manipulating your generosity. "Withdrawing love or affection" is a manipulation technique and is generally indicative to me that a healthy request has not been made. Sometimes the charitable answer lies in the difficulty of saying, "no". Your responsibility lies first with your ability to provide shelter and sustenance for your immediate family. The generosity is offered in the sincerity of your no - "No, you must stand on your own here. And, I'm going to help you."
Discern together with your husband regarding this request, and I pray peace will be yours regardless of the answer you must give.
Know that I'm calling on the Holy Spirit to flood you and your dh with wisdom and understanding so that you are both illuminated with His plan for this family member and for your own family.
Peace and to you, dearest Amy!!!! You know you can come to us any time, girlfriend!!! 
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