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And to confuse the issue more, they sign their birthday cards to me in all different ways, nothing consistent, so I can't even get a clue from that  |
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My MIL does the same thing! 
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My Mom told me she'd be jealous if I ever called my MIL "Mom". My Dad never said a word. So I call my MIL/FIL by their first names. Always felt awkward, but then my DH calls my parents by their first names and thinks nothing of it.
I'm remembering back when I worked for a Dentist and this same topic came up. He said his wife never called his parents ANYTHING! "What happens when she needs to say something to them?" I asked. "She just waits for them to turn around", he replied.
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| My Mom told me she'd be jealous if I ever called my MIL "Mom". |
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There are some questions...
how does/would everyone's parents feel about you calling your in-laws mom and dad? I guess my mom wouldn't have room to say anything negative since she called her MIL (dad's mom) Mom when they talked on the phone. It always seemed wierd to me though.
how would you feel if your child called their in-laws mom and dad?....especially when you're around.
We are so far from it that I can't imagine, but I don't think I'd enjoy answering my child when s/he calls out "Mom...." only to find out my dd or ds weren't talking to me.
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I say Oma and Opa when the kids are around, which is most of the time . When I'm alone with them, I call them by their first names.
Dh calls my mom and dad by their first names.
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Michaela wrote:
| how does/would everyone's parents feel about you calling your in-laws mom and dad? I guess my mom wouldn't have room to say anything negative since she called her MIL (dad's mom) Mom when they talked on the phone. It always seemed wierd to me though. |
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My parents don't seem to mind my calling my ILs Mom and Dad. I told them that I was going to, just as my hubby asked them if it would be okay if he called them that, and I told them why we thought it was appropriate. They agreed that it was very nice to accept--at least in name--one's spouse's family as one's own.
But I just wanted to say that my parents' feelings on the matter wouldn't have affected my decision really. I hope that doesn't sound mean--I love them both very dearly! But I consider this one of many decisions made by the couple, within the marriage, and I don't consult my parents about those kinds of matters unless it directly concerns them (for example, we asked if *they* minded being called Mom and Dad by my husband, but not if *I* could call my ILs that--does that make sense?).
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I would hope if my children have the type of relationship that they'd call their ILs by mom and dad that I would be happy for them to have a good relationship with them rather than upset over the names.
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I call my mil, "Mom." My fil, whom I did call "Dad," passed away 9 years ago. Dh called my parents "Mom" and "Dad."
We have been married for 24 1/2 years now, and I get along with my mil great.  But back when we were first married, I doubted we would ever be close. My il's objected to our marriage, and the night before the wedding, they were packing to leave in the morning for a trip! Dh had to beg them to come.  The objections were due to our age (dh24 and me22,) and the fact that I was not "born" Catholic, but was a convert. 
I was not treated well for many years, but I worked quite hard to be a "daughter." It has worked out. I can now call my mil "mom" without blinking  , but I will say, it took probably 10-15 years for it to feel somewhat natural.
My mom, I called "Mum." I don't think she was thrilled I called my mil "mom," but she also knew that I was just trying to help dh in his relationship with his parents.
Now, with 6dss, I think a lot!  about how my il's were to me. I pray that I can do a better job with any future dil's, as I have noticed, in many families, the dils really are the key to future relationships with dss.
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I had to bring this thread back because I just got a big laugh from my birthday card from my in laws. They each signed it. It was signed: Love, Father-in-law
Love, Margaret
Sheesh, I will never know what to call them. On the plus side, it gave me a nice laugh
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Were they being funny? On purpose?
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mathmama wrote:
It was signed: Love, Father-in-law
Love, Margaret
Sheesh, I will never know what to call them. On the plus side, it gave me a nice laugh |
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This is SO FUNNY, Michaela! Just throw up your hands and try to not ever have to address them!
Why is this SO FUNNY?????!!!!!!
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SuzanneG wrote:
mathmama wrote:
It was signed: Love, Father-in-law
Love, Margaret
Sheesh, I will never know what to call them. On the plus side, it gave me a nice laugh |
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This is SO FUNNY, Michaela! Just throw up your hands and try to not ever have to address them!
Why is this SO FUNNY?????!!!!!! |
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IDk, but I haven't laughed so hard in front of the computer in a long time!
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No, they are not trying to be funny, this is just how they are. If this was their sense of humor I would feel comfortable asking them what they want me to call them. Alas, that is not the case, but I do appreciate this laugh that I get once a year I don't know if I said this earlier in the thread, but when I know a couple is about to marry I always offer this advice "please find out now what you are to call your in laws, don't wait until after you are married" I say it with as much seriousness as I can muster...it is a topic close to my heart 
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My dh (the youngest of 9) has called his mother 'Granny' since befor we were married (I think its a spin off of the beverly hillbillys)so that's what the kids and I call her .
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