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I am begging for prayers.
I'm suffering through what I think is another miscarriage, making this three losses in the past year.
My sister is due the same day (Thanksgiving) I was due with miscarriage number 2, and I see her almost everyday.
With the changing of the seasons, shorter, colder days, and the horrible cycles I have had in between the losses (usually 17-19 days long) I am really falling apart.
I feel so horrible that I am not able to appreciate the children I have, as I am so sad about the ones I have lost.
My youngest is almost five, and begs for a baby multiple times a day.
I can't sleep, and locally seem to be surrounded by women my age or older (38) pregnant, or "done" , and peaceful about it.
I know I should be SO grateful for 5 beautiful blessings, but instead feel so empty.
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I am praying hard for you!
Sending a well prayed Angelus your way!
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Many hugs and prayers.
Know that so many of us here understand and are lifting you up in prayer.
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I am so sorry Lisa. I don't know what to say other than I am praying for you.
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Oh Lisa It really doesn't matter how many lovely children you have. Each baby lost deserves to be mourned. And it's ok to feel grief and to do just that. Seeing those around you that appear (notice it's only APPEAR) to be perfectly happy and content can hurt, just like any open wound can hurt when it's bumped or poked. It doesn't mean that you're mean or anything else just because their situation reminds you of yours.
Miscarriages are hard on your body and on your emotions. My midwife told me that post partum depression is higher for a miscarriage because your body has such a hard adjustment plus you don't have a baby in your arms at the end.
Sometimes you need to give yourself permission to grieve, so that you can do that and start healing.. but it will still take time.. and even then it's a bittersweet feeling as you look at the children you do have and know that one is missing.
Also you need to help yourself physically. You could be anemic and that makes everything hard for instance. Blood loss from a miscarriage and those fast cycles would definately contribute to that. So be kind to yourself physically, get as much rest as you can, and replenish the nutrients you've lost, rebuild blood supply.
And if the PPD is really bad, you may need to get extra help with that.
But this won't just go away and you won't just "get over it".
And send that precious 5 yr old off to speak to God about more babies. 
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I'm sorry, Lisa. Praying here as you carry these heavy crosses.
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Adding my prayers for you and the whole family!
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Many prayers for you, Lisa.
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I'm praying for you! I've had one miscarriage and it was heartbreaking. Definitely let yourself grieve.
Praying for another little blessing for you, if it's God's will.
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I'm so sorry, LIsa. I know what you are going through. Please just take it day by day; minute by minute. Praying for you.
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Lisa, I'm so sorry. Adding my prayers...
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Oh, Lisa, what a difficult cross you're being asked to carry.
I see so much wisdom and hope in Jodie's post and I echo it all! Allow yourself time to grieve, and do seek help from a trusted midwife or doctor if you feel that this goes beyond deep and painful grieving into serious depression.
You've been handed a heavy cross, and I'm so sorry that you are meeting this pain again. I know how hard it is to meet that dear friend/loved one who is expecting joyfully while there are still splinters from the cross in your own hands. It's not easy to meet those moments with joy or even peace. I'm always aware that there are those that are not with us around the table or in my arms, and it never stops hurting really, we just get farther from the moment of the most intense pain and that gives me a little more perspective and ability to love them as God intended them to be - always beholding His face.
Offering up for you today, Lisa! May Our Lord grant you peace and mercy as you walk with this broken  .
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Oh, Lisa! My heart is aching for you!!! I know the dark road you are traveling, please, please take time to heal and find help if needed. Know that I am praying for you, and offering the little challenges of my day for you.
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Oh Lisa. Hugs and prayers for you.
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I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you.
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I am so sorry to hear of the sadness in your heart right now. I am praying for you.
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Praying, Lisa.
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Praying for you.
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Offering prayers as well.
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Oh Lisa, I'm awfully sorry. We'll be praying for you.
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