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I am so sorry. I will be praying for you.
Mary
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I can't remember the name of the video marriage series that I was watching but the main thing they discussed was that for the husband to be happy in the marriage , he needs to feel respect from his wife. When he doesn't feel respect he doesn't show love and when he doesn't show love she doesn't show respect, and when she doesn't show respect.....you get the idea.
So their suggestion was to voice your respect for your husband by:
1) verbally telling him
ex. "You know I really respect your decision about..." or "I respect you as a father because of the way you.... or" I respect the way you provide for our family and try to meet our needs" or "I really respect the way you care for your parents, neighbor ect."
2)Writing him a note expressing your respect for him and listing the things you respect about him.
I'm not at all suggesting that you don't respect your husband-- I'm just saying that this may help him feel your respect more and hopefully in return show his love to you.
I'm praying for you...
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Praying for you and your marriage...
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What a difficult burden for your family to bear. I'm so sorry, and I'm praying.
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Prayers for you. I just wanted to offer a bit of hope. I know someone with similar circumstances... And the situation improved, it took time and the wife not getting bitter. The more sweet she was, the softer he became. Not that simple though... I will definitely pray.
'Wish I could share more. Hopefully I have said enough. ((((hugs))))
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Anonymous wrote:
I'm just really at a low point in hope for my marriage. I've read E. Leseur's books, but our stories are too different to compare. My dh was a devout Catholic when I married him; he is now strongly agnostic. I have to "monitor" him with our young children, because he doesn't care if they see movies rated R for violence. He's otherwise a decent dad, but he just really doesn't like ME anymore, doesn't want to spend any time together at all, he's rude, critical, and yells at me a lot (when he's not ignoring me.)
And to everyone else in the world who knows us, this would all come as a surprise, because we hide it all. I was completely convinced that marrying him was what God wanted me to do, but now it all seems like a huge mistake.
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Jody wrote:
So their suggestion was to voice your respect for your husband by:
1) verbally telling him
ex. "You know I really respect your decision about..." or "I respect you as a father because of the way you.... or" I respect the way you provide for our family and try to meet our needs" or "I really respect the way you care for your parents, neighbor ect."
2)Writing him a note expressing your respect for him and listing the things you respect about him.
I'm not at all suggesting that you don't respect your husband-- I'm just saying that this may help him feel your respect more and hopefully in return show his love to you. |
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Reminded me of the Love Languages approach.
Marriage is difficult so please never feel that you are alone in your struggles. Find hope in God's great love for your family and the fact that you can choose, one minute at a time if necessary, how you will behave in the face of this suffering. I'm praying for you, your dh, and your marriage  .
Love,
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4Real Forums : We Pray to the Lord
Topic: Anonymous PR for Marriage
