| Author | |
insegnante
Forum All-Star
Joined: April 07 2006
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 1143
|
| Posted: Oct 14 2008 at 12:10pm | IP Logged
|
 |
|
LeeAnn wrote:
You mean in some families individuals wait for their turn to talk??!  We are this way also but haven't really done anything about it. Only recently have I realized that some people think it's rude. |
|
|
Before I even start considering rudeness I just find it's hard on my nerves. But what you say below really applies to how I feel when my 6yo is talking continually, or when the kids are playing in the living area with one or both of them talking when I need or want to talk to my husband:
Quote:
| I think if I waited every single time for someone to finish their sentence I'd go bonkers. |
|
|
The way our house is set up right now doesn't give us many options.
I'm going a bit OT but this sure sounds like me:
Quote:
| The funny thing is, most people think I am a very quiet person. I hardly talk at all--very serious--except for when I do. |
|
|
I always get confused answering personality test questions about whether I'm "talkative." Maybe it's a matter of my introversion that it seems untrue in the great majority of situations but quite true in most of the remainder.
__________________
Theresa
mommy to three boys, 3/02, 8/04, and 9/10, and a girl, 8/08
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
mary theresa
Forum All-Star
Joined: Nov 08 2006
Location: N/A
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 766
|
| Posted: Oct 14 2008 at 1:32pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
DominaCaeli wrote:
I'm happy to help her develop her verbal skills, and I love her sweet lisping voice, but I'm an introvert and would love a few minutes of quiet once and awhile.  And I'm imagining what the future years will bring... |
|
|
Yeah, this is me too, Celeste!
Her little words and voice are SO cute now, but when she gets older . . .
It doesn't help too much that she is REALLY bossy so most of her talking is trying to tell me what to do. 
__________________
Mary Theresa
mother to 3 little girls --March '06, Dec '07 and Jan '10
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Philothea
Forum All-Star
Joined: Aug 15 2006
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 824
|
| Posted: Oct 20 2008 at 7:43am | IP Logged
|
|
|
Ian (age 4) is just like this! No advice, but I sure feel better knowing I'm not alone.
Sometimes I tell him, "No talking for 5 minutes," and then set a timer. Or I give him a choice between playing cars in his room or playing outside (we live on four acres now with windows looking out on every part of the yard, so I can let him run around outside without constant close-up supervision, he's good about obeying the boundaries we set out there) ... just to get him to be somewhere I'm NOT.
I feel so guilty because he's charming and smart and verbally gifted and I AM thankful ... but sometimes he uses his powers for evil, so to speak. Backtalk, negotiation, disrespect ... I know I was like that as a kid, and being given a dose of my own medicine is scary and unpleasant at times.
When he chooses to play in his room, I hear him still! He makes all the imaginary drivers of his Matchbox cars talk to each other in this high-pitched falsetto at the top of his lungs, plus siren noises and screeching tires and backup beeping and dump truck sounds ... it is LOUD but at least he's upstairs and I'm not and the walls are thick plaster (1921 house) ... so glad, as these noisy kids get bigger, to be out of the townhouse with its flimsy drywall and close quarters.
I do try to have several times throughout each day where I consciously give him my full attention and really go out of my way to show interest in what he likes. It seems to keep us connected and buy me some quiet time when I do this.
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Red Cardigan
Forum Pro
Joined: June 16 2007
Location: N/A
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 470
|
| Posted: Oct 20 2008 at 11:49am | IP Logged
|
|
|
Well, none of my kids has yet out-talked their extremely verbose mother...
But truly, teaching children the difference between talking as in simply vocalizing their every thought, and having a conversation, is a challenge. One thing that seemed to help was inviting conversation at some times (mealtimes, especially) and then being able to say at other times, "I'm really busy right now, and can't chat about that. Can we save it for a conversation later?"
I'm afraid that both "why" questions and "what if" questions were fun for me. The key to answering a why question is to answer it! None of my children stayed in the "why" phase for very long, because if they asked mom why the sky was blue, for instance, she was liable to start telling them about how our planet has an atmosphere, and how the components of the atmosphere combined with the visible light spectrum produced by our sun...well, you get the idea! And you don't even have to be 100% accurate, so long as you're really, really thorough. Most of the time mine got bored with the answer before I did, and left (or put their little hands over *my* mouth to get me to stop talking!).
As for the what if--I *loved* the question about the hammer!!! My answer would probably be "I wonder if the hammer dressed up like a porcupine so people would stop grabbing him and pounding his head on things! He'd be too spiky to hold, and maybe he wanted a break from all the hard work of driving in nails. If you'll draw a few pictures about it, I'll write the words, and we can make a story about it!"
Sometimes the endless chatting and interrupting and inopportune questions really are pleas for attention. I know it seems like we give our children over a hundred percent of our time and attention already, so how can we give them more? But these ages really do go by so fast--though it only seems that way in retrospect. 
__________________
http://www.redcardigan.blogspot.com
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Martha
Forum All-Star
Joined: Aug 25 2005
Location: N/A
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 2291
|
| Posted: Oct 20 2008 at 12:42pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
I often respond to my dc with rhetorical questions like:
Why did they use B-I-N-G-O for bingo and not some other letters?
Who decided the color of grass should be called green? Why not "fumpadoo"?
It annoys them and my dh to no end.
__________________
Martha
mama to 7 boys & 4 girls
Yes, they're all ours!
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
|
|
Forum Locked) 
4Real Forums : Mothering and Family Life
Topic: kids who talk... a lot
