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LucyP
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Posted: Sept 25 2008 at 4:08am \| IP Logged

Tracy, we adopted our children. There is more to worry about than just names, as you know! If you had a beautiful reason for her name (I assume her birth parents didn't give her the name MaryClare) that is the thing that will stay in her mind not that she has a slightly different name from her sibs.

We changed our son's name and were told it was a "no no" but imagine his name was Bobbie-Jones (it was a pet name doubled with a surname of a TV character actually) - well we called him Robert and gave him new middle names. He loves the reasons for his name, and we enjoy teaching him how his names bring him into our family while still honouring the intention behind his birth parents' choice. We didn't change our daughter's name but the reasons her mother chose it are very sad and actually I feel we should have changed it.

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Posted: Sept 27 2008 at 10:43am \| IP Logged

Fuzzy wrote:

Our newest boy is William, and we aren't sure if he will have a nickname or not.

DH's cousin has a William and they call him Liam (LEE-um). I love it, and really wish it wasn't "taken" (we try not to name our kids the same as any relatively close family member, DH prefers they have their "own" name).

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Posted: Sept 27 2008 at 11:10am \| IP Logged

Booksnbabes wrote:

DH's cousin has a William and they call him Liam (LEE-um).

OH, I love that too!

My husband's given name is William, but so is his cousin who is just over a year older. Same last name. That cousin goes by Will, my husband goes by Bo. No, it makes no sense. His parents tell a story that it's because he looked like Bozo the Clown which I think is horrible. I wish they would have gone with Liam - or even with William or Bill.

Every year I still have to correct our credit reports bc the cousins share a name and lived together in the past. Granted we haven't lived in the same state for 10 years, but there is still crossover, and it's never *good* crossover.

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Posted: Sept 27 2008 at 6:49pm \| IP Logged

We have a Margaret Therese, often addressed as "Maggie T", mostly because she went through a phase of signing her name "Margaret.T.Lastname", which somehow just hit us as being very funny to punctuate it like that. Someone heard me call her "Margaret Therese" and said, "How Catholic", to which I replied "But not as Catholic as Margaret Mary Therese." I went through a couple of months regretting that we hadn't named her that, but decided it seemed like "a lot of name". We often call any/all of our children by first plus middle names, or first name and middle initial, or even first initial and middle name. Actually we liked all of the middle names just as much as the first names, so we don't want to NOT use them all...

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Posted: Oct 04 2008 at 9:23am \| IP Logged

LucyP wrote:

You are right, we do have a special reason for her name. I had thought to explain it to MaryClare when she is older and then leave it up to her if she would like to share it with others or not. So, my own mom (the one causing the worry on the dbl. name thing) doesn't know and I really can't tell her.

We did not keep her name assignment from the orphanage for various reasons, but I feel that it is not something that will be kept from her or is a secret.

Thanks for that reminder and encouragement!

My mom continues to push this issue, however. She is determined to call our new daughter Sara Jane, no matter what we call her. She is even trying to push the kids into saying it, correcting them when they refer to her as 'Sara'.

I brush it off for now though bc I know that as her parents and immediate family, the name we call her will stick! Hey if it makes my mom feel better to call her "Sara Jane" no harm really. It wil be like a pet name for them.

I wish I could explain to her better how I feel that it will not psychologically hurt MaryClare to be the only dbl. name in the family, but I have tried my best. I just really want my new daughter to be simply Sara! I pray she will not push the issue as the girls are growing up and create trouble where there is't any.

It seems like such a minor and petty thing really and I pray I can 'get over it'.

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