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Many prayers for you, Lisa. You and my husband have some things in common. Today is his birthday and he is also adopted. 
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Lisa, praying for you. Big hugs to you.
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I think I understand how you're feeling, Lisa. You are getting the load of all three huge events in your life...at one time.
I'm also adopted. I've miscarried a child, too.
There are events that really make me think of the woman who gave me up. Not my birthday, but my baptism that took place three days after my birth. I shared about that realization a year or two ago here on the forums. To see the picture of her holding me as I was baptised. I had always thought she didn't care about me. That must be why she gave me up.
How could she not care about a child she carried (felt) for nine months in her body?!?! I mourned the loss of my baby that I carried three months. Does she think of me..the chid she gave up...on my birthday the way I think about my baby on her due date and the date I lost THEN to realize that she had me baptised before giving me up changed my feelings about her.
Oh the wondering....
the emotions.....
I'm not sure exactly what it is you're feeling, Lisa, but if you'd like to talk please feel free to PM me.
HAPPPY Birthday, Lisa!
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Oh, what a heavy cross you're bearing right now, Lisa.
Much, much sympathy. I'm not adopted, but I am donor conceived, so I do have a small insight into your sufferings.
However, thank God that you were born and are such a blessing to so many!
Praying for you.
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doris wrote:
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Lisa,
Happy Birthday and we will hold your intentions close to our hearts in our Rosary tonight!! Time to go pray now...
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Lisa, I've been praying for you all day. Dh is adopted, and he is always kind of down on his birthday (and not because of his age  ).
ok, I just deleted quite a bit, realizing that maybe I should not share his story, but anyway, his adoptive mom and yours seem quite similar and I'll leave it at that.
I am so sorry for the recent loss of your precious little one.
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Lisa,
I too was adopted and have suffered through miscarriages. I have felt the many of the same things you have, to be sure.
I will be praying for you today.
You may PM me if you wish.
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Dear Lisa,
I am sorry for you loss. I hope that you recover quickly.
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{{{{Lisa}}}}
Lots of love being sent to you and lots of prayers going up for you too! I wish you every grace and blessing for your birthday and always! I wish I lived close enough to spoil you a bit....at least bring you a warm yummy meal and something very chocolately!
Happy birthday, dear Lisa!
May God bless you and Mary keep you!
God love you!
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Lisa,
I am so sorry for your recent loss. You have been on my heart and in my prayers.
I can relate to everything you wrote. I was adopted by a mom who could not give birth, too.
Mother's Day can really compound the tension that exists with our mothers (who sometimes have very opposing viewpoints - believe me, I know..) and add that to the hormone fluctuations that are happening with the miscarriage, in addition to grieving your loss and also grieving with your living children (mine have really been sad with the dashed hopes of a new baby three times since our last baby was born), and it is quite a lot to deal with.
We are so blessed to have the gift of faith, the intercession of the saints and the prayers of our friends - especially the like-minded ones we have found online.
Lisa, tomorrow, try to focus on the joy that you so beautifully share being the mom of the nine treasure whom God has entrusted you to care for here. God's abundant graces are so evident in your life and you have so graciously and eloquently shared that on this forum and on your blog. I find you to be one of the greatest inspirations ever. You are so young and you are loving (and educating) nine beautiful children and you rejoice at the hope of more.
Please, count on my prayers for you and your family.
Blessings,
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Lisa,
I can't relate to the adoption blues, but can to the miscarriage and birthday blues.
My heart is heavy, too...and it's been almost 3 months since our miscarriage. My birthday followed our miscarriage 2 days later.
Hugs and many prayers to you. I hope that all our prayers help to lift you up a bit.
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Lisa, My prayers are with you, I'll offer up my day for you, I'm not adopted, but we lost our latest little one last month five days before my birthday.
God bless you
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My heart goes out to you Lisa. I had a miscarriage in September (right after moving to a different part of the state). I had to have a neighbor come over and stay with the children because my husband was out of town and I had to drive myself to the hospital (my bleeding wouldn't subside).
It was a lonely, gut-wrenching experience. Later I found out that 5 friends of mine had miscarriages within a few months of mine. It was a hard period of time to go through, but it did eventually get better.
God will help you through this time, and later you'll be able to get a better perspective on the question of why it happened to you.
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hugs Lisa...
I have had miscarriages. (hugs)
I am a birth mother.. gave up my child when I was 21...
from the other side of the fence...there isn't a special day that goes by (Mother's Day, birthdays, holidays etc....) that I don't ache with love for my child. I cry often, silently in a locked bathroom, away from from the kids, and dh (who doesn't understand very much, but God bless him :) I am sure your birth mother DOES think of you, and loves you. (hugs)
I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling.
Know that you are in my prayers.
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My best cousin Angela was adopted from Korea. She has always ached. When she was 18 her parents took her back to Korea to try to find some info about who her parents were, where she came from, etc... But unfortunately the orphanage she lived in had been destroyed by fire. They don't even know exactly how old she is. They just estimated by her size at the time, but she was hearing impaired so that didn't help either.
She always ached, my first memory of her was her telling me about her family in Korea that loved her and she would meet someday. I was always so glad that we had the opportunity to be her family. Sadly, in her case that ache has lead to bad choices. Her parents had rejected the Church and God, so she doesn't even have the Lord as Father.. She feels like she just doesn't fit anywhere.
I am so sorry about your precious little one Lisa.  If it is any consolation, my parents love our children but are so un-thrilled with our life as well.
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