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cactus mouse wrote:
I am pretty sure I am in a severe minority...but we don't call the baby by a name before they are born. I always think it is a little weird, but that is just me. We have a few names narrowed down, but none of my kids were named right away. |
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I completely agree with you Cactus Mouse. We have never named a baby before birth. Most of the time it is 3 days after birth before a name is finalized. I like to hold the baby and smell the baby and get some kind of sense of them before we bestow a name. Once and only once did I "name" a baby before hand and that was with the baby I just lost. For some reason, I broke our custom and named the baby a girls name on my blog. I started talking about her with the name and low and behold I miscarry. The eery thing is that according to the ultrasound the baby stopped growing on her saints' feastday and this saint name shows up only once on any Catholic calendar. That really upset me and now I don't know whether we can ever use the name again.
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KackyK wrote:
When they went for dr visits they just said "baby boy" and the last name. She said they would try out different names for a week at a time until they settled on one!!!  |
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When dh was in the hospital last week I heard some staff members talking about a patient one of them had had who used the name "Baby Boy Lastname" his whole life. People called him "Baby".
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We give the kids nicknames before they are born, and never use them afterwards. This is my dh's idea, I assure you. Poor Paul was called "Rufus Cornpop" for the duration of gestation.
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We choose names beforehand for each of ours, but only dh and myself knew what we had chosen (drove our elder two daughters mad with our last little one that we wouldn't tell them!).
We also ended up with a pattern ... each girl has an Old Testament first name, because dh is Jewish, and a saint's name for their middle name. Their middle names also have family connections. Finding the first name was hard, as in Jewish tradition it is not done to name a child after a living relative, so several names we liked were ruled out before we started. We ended up with:
Rachel Helen - named after a great-aunt I was very close to.
Hannah Marie - named after dh's mother and paternal grandmother, who were both Marie
Naomi Rose - named after my great-great-aunt
We chose Jonathan Mark for a boy before we got married, but each time he turned out to be a girl  .
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My husband is very particular about names, as am I, so we spend the first few months of our pregnancy battling it out--if we waited until the delivery room, our baby would leave the hospital unnamed, I'm sure! We like obviously-Catholic names, and I like either the first or middle to be a bit unusual. If possible, we also like them to have some kind of translation into Italian (my family's language) and Tagalog (his)--it makes it much easier for our relatives.
With my daughter, we found out that she was a girl at the 20-week ultrasound, and we announced her name to the family at that point. We adopted my son, so applying a name to him was a bit trickier. After quite a bit of deliberation, we did not keep his birth name--we had felt the intercession of two particular saints during the process, and we felt strongly about naming him after them. We began calling him by our name for him during our trip to visit him (it was hard not to), but we did not tell anyone else his name until the adoption was completely final.
Anyway, we already have a boy's and a girl's name picked out for our next (complete with middle names and nicknames) and a long list of names to choose from after that. 
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Macbeth's post reminded...my husband and I are both from Kentucky but different parts. I lived near the Indiana border so the area was often referred to as "Kentuckiana". He lived near the Tennessee border where the area was referred to as "Tuckesee". So we used to joke about having a girl named Kentuckiana and a boy named Tuckesee; we kind of used those nicknames with out first since we didn't find out the sex.
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I was really becoming interested in naming this baby before birth, but I just looked at the saints' days when she might be born, and three of the names already being considered showed up within ten days before her "due date!" Now I'm not sure we can choose early if there's a chance she'll be born on the day of a different great saint with a great name. Two of them (Helena and Jane) share a day. It'd be pretty easy to choose Jane if she were born on the 18th since Helena might give people pronunciation problems, but if she's born on August 11 there's Clare... The only one of those names I already know my husband likes is Clare.
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We named *most* our babies before they were born. We even have boy and girl names picked out for the next baby, God-willing. We have a lot of fun thinking about and picking out names. We haven't gotten to a point where we are praying for another baby, but we might even ask God to bless us with a baby by a particular name.
We didn't find out the s*x with our first or second, but we knew both of their names. When we knew our third was to be a boy we started calling him by his first and middle name and did the same with our fourth boy. I've never felt, on seeing them, that we should have named them something else.
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I dedicated you, a prophet to the nations I appointed you." Jeremiah 1:5
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Stephanie_Q wrote:
We named *most* our babies before they were born. We even have boy and girl names picked out for the next baby, God-willing.
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I dedicated you, a prophet to the nations I appointed you." Jeremiah 1:5 |
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Ditto ditto!! Lots of girls names - starting to run out of boys ones
A few of our kids have been high risk - and praying for them by name and talking to them constantly by name has been so important for us. I have the verse you wrote and Psalm 139 printed out and read them constantly when pregnant.
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I was thinking about this thread the other night, and it reminded me of the book/movie Roots. If I remember correctly, the tradition was that the father would name the baby. Not long after it was born, it would take the baby aside and whisper the baby's name into his/her ear. It was very important that the baby hear it's name before anyone else. There is something sweet about the whole thing.
Of course, I would never let my husband name our children without my input.
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Barbara C. wrote:
Of course, I would never let my husband name our children without my input.
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I agree! My husband has too wicked of a sense of humor to be trusted with that task completely!
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Our babies come ready named  Their birth parents name them.
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We almost always have a name picked out (and know the gender) before the baby arrives. We have only changed our minds once. Our last baby had a name before she was conceived. It came to me in prayer that I would have another daughter soon and to name her Mary Therese. My dh was very much against that name so I just didn't mention it. He must have gotten a message from God b/c when she was born he agreed (willingly) to the name :) When I found out I was pregnant this time I asked God to not tell me a name, LOL. It was too stressful. ;)
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We named Gabrielle before she was born: Alexander James. I was convinced she was a boy! (No sonogram, so we didn't know.) She was born 10 days early, and when I was in labor the nurse asked what the baby's name will be, and I said, "Alexander". She asked what if it was a girl and I said, "It isn't!" She persisted, "Well, what if it IS?" and I replied, "I guess Gabrielle Maria". My mum (who was there) and Eric just gaped at each other, as it wasn't a name we'd even considered! I have no idea where it came from other than being divinely inspired!
We knew Andrew was a boy and named him Eric Andrew Jr, before he was born, to be called EJ. (For "Eric Jr.") When he was six he said he was NOT EJ and wanted to be Andrew. I told him he had to wait until his seventh birthday the following year, and if he still felt so strongly we could change what we call him. He still wanted it! So we bought an ANDREW hat, which he wore for months while everyone became accustomed to using the new name. :) So, I suppose HE named himself!
When I was pregnant with Gracie we wanted a surprise, so we chose two names (Philip Nathaniel and Grace Abigail) and waited to see what we got!
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We've named all three before. In fact the 1st and 3rd were named long before they were even conceived. Our 2nd daughter was named the last month of my pregnancy. We're already brainstorming through both boy and girl names again and i'm not pregnant. I just like to have a baby name ready. When people announce their pregnancy my first question is if they have decided on a name. I think it's so fun.
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