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How lovely, Helen!
We had our JP when I was 41. I miscarried our Catherine last year when I was 43 (our first that I'm aware of.) JP came six years after his brother who I birthed when I was 35. We're still hopeful (and God is very aware of our prayer  ) to become pregnant while accepting some objective truths - that babies don't come to us rapidly and that I'm showing fewer signs of regular fertility.
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My youngest daughter was born when I was 45 (nearer 46). I also miscarried last autumn at 47. That pregnancy was a total shock as my little one was still nursing enthusiastically 24/7.
I did find pregnancy at 45 a lot harder than with my two older daughters, with health issues and an emergency c-section. I also struggled with stiffness and aching joints that seemed to be related to nursing (the more she nursed, the more I ached). On the plus side, I find I cope better with sleep deprivation than I did when I was younger .
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rm4mrfrus wrote:
Amy, I too had #6 at 37 but had not had any miscarriages until after that, then had 2 in a row. Yes, he did say "old eggs" and something about a 50-50 chance of either getting pregnant or giving birth once you hit 41 (with the numbers rapidly falling up to that point). I was feeling so sad and discouraged at that appt that I don't remember exactly what he said. I should have had my dh with me to listen also but I was trying to spare him some of the sadness of the appt by leaving him in the waiting room (we just miscarried last month).
We did talk about tests and he said that most were ruled out just by the fact that I have had 6 healthy pregnancies. He said there was a very short list of things we could check out but that he really thought that it was due to age. He also said that the tests were VERY expensive and depended on being covered by insurance.
I see that you are in VA, have you checked to see if the Tepeyac Clinic would do any tests for you? We are in VA too but too far away.
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Hollee, thanks so much for your reply. I think I will give Tepeyac a call and just ask the question. I know the military won't be in love with the idea about checking hormone levels and what not. They'd just as soon put me out to pasture if they could. Dh and I can't believe that our baby days are perhaps coming to an end. It seems to have all gone by so fast. And I still feel so young and healthy! I was able to exercise all the way to birth for #6 and it was the easiest birth and recovery by far.
As an aside we are truly grateful for the babies we have, esp. #'s 4,5,and 6. My dh is a two time cancer survivor that was told he'd be infertile when I was carrying #3. "No more children for you." we were told. Ha! God is so good. I too will add you and the other women here hoping to conceive to my prayers. Thank you for yours.
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I was 42 when Joseph was born and 43 when I had my fourth miscarriage. Although Joseph desperately wants a sibling who is not an adult ("My sisters are all grown up," he mourns.), I strongly doubt we'll have another child.
I'm okay with that. I was not at peace with not having another child when I was forty. It really upset me. As soon as my dh agreed to try for another child, I was at peace. I had a miscarriage, Joseph, and another miscarriage. It turns out that Joseph is my most impaired child so I think we'll have him around for quite a while. (In fact, we are now seeing that two of our kids will probably be dependent for the indefinite future even if they are over 18.)
At fifty, my life is changing. My fertility is lessening. Although the chances are great that I'll never have grandchildren, I'm still reaching the grandma stage iykwim. I'm going from summer to fall now, and I plan to enjoy this season too. I do have to admit that I get to cheat a little. Because Joseph is impaired, he is still very child-like, and I get to have both a big boy and a little boy at the same time.
I'll probably be sadder when he reaches 13. But right now, I treasure him (and his sisters), and I plan to enjoy his childhood as much as I can for he is our last.
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I had my youngest dd when I was 46. We've actually been blessed with 3 babies in my 40's!
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I was 44 when I had our last baby. Sadly, we lost him at 9 days old, due to a cord prolapse during labor, which is not age related. Otherwise, he was a perfect, healthy baby. 
Had one more pregnancy that ended in m/c at almost 45.
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Hollee and Amy, I had two miscarriages within six or seven months in 2007. I was asked to try a study where the mom-to-be takes one St. Joseph's children's aspirin per day. I couldn't formally be involved in the study because I had too many children and too many miscarriages. She recommended I try it anyway. So, I did. And here I am. I turn 41 this month and I'm 26 weeks along with a sweet baby girl.
Wouldn't some other changes be happening that you would NOTICE ~ changes in your cycle, for example ~ if you had old eggs? Just curious ...
Mary Ann, I'm so sorry to hear about your little ones!
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Tina,
Thanks for the suggestion! I'll try it! I think I had read something about that very idea somewhere but I can't remember where right now.
And as far as changes, well, I think my cycle is lengthening which is probably one of those signs. Before I had a pretty consistent 30 day cycle and when I got pregnant these last 2 times (both ending in M/C) my cycles were 35-36 days...so maybe that does mean there are problems? I hope not, you all have given me lots of hope here on this thread!
Hearing about your sweet baby made my night! 
In Our Lord and Lady,
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I was a month shy of 42 when I had our youngest. I am 43 now and she is 16 mos. No new pregnancy thus far. I am open to more ( she is number 10) but I do admit I have some apprehensions. 
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I had my last when I was 30, unless God decides otherwise and has a sense of humor with me.  For me though, it's not an easy process to have babies. If I had them easily, I would have wanted to have a boatload!
We have three beautiful children. I'm 43, and Jake is 17 (18 in August), Zach will be 16 in July, and Sarah just turned 13. Three kids in 5 years, and then that was it! I had three c-sections, am only 4'8" tall, and don't have much room to carry them. My pregnancies are OK, but keeping weight off is impossible being growth hormone deficient. And I have chronic asthma and psoriatic arthritis, so it's just very difficult for me. So I am thankful for the three God gave us, and long for many grandchildren one day!!! 
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I was 43 when I had our ninth. I'd had three miscarriages in between our 8th and our 9th, so we felt very, very lucky that everything went well that time!
Since then, I have had two more miscarriages, and recently have been treated for low thyroid, so that may have been a factor in all the miscarriages. I wish now that I'd gone into the dr immediately and had more bloodwork; maybe it would have picked up on low thyroid/progesterone.
The emergency room dr. suggested I come to the infertility clinic but I couldn't see myself showing up and saying "I have nine children and I think I'm infertile!"
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I was 43 when our baby was born. The doctor thought I was nuts, especially since we had 3 miscarriages and this was to be my 3rd c-section. All went well, although I admit I was a little more tired during the pregnancy, well, a lot more tired really. But Isaac is a joy and I can't imagine life without him!
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I had #7 three weeks shy of my 42nd birthday and #8 a month after I turned 45. I never thought I'd get to the point that I wouldn't ask God to bless us with another child but now that I'm almost 47, I have. I love them all dearly but honestly I'm tired and ready to leave the baby/toddler years behind me. I'm still tandem nursing my 4 yr old and 19 mo. old. I told my 4 yr old that when he turns 5 in September he's done num-numming. I anticipate being 50 and still nursing my now 19 mo old dd.
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Tina P. wrote:
Hollee and Amy, I had two miscarriages within six or seven months in 2007. I was asked to try a study where the mom-to-be takes one St. Joseph's children's aspirin per day. I couldn't formally be involved in the study because I had too many children and too many miscarriages. She recommended I try it anyway. So, I did. And here I am. I turn 41 this month and I'm 26 weeks along with a sweet baby girl.
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My doctor also had me on the baby aspirin regimen throughout my pregnancy w/ Luke. Because I had just lost baby Jack @ 20 weeks in the previous pregnancy, he thought we should just cover all our bases.
We do have significant chromosomal challenges to overcome for pregnancies to continue (hence the 9 angels), but he thought the baby aspirin regimen was just a good "insurance" policy because of my age (I was 39 when Luke was born).
The way he explained it to me was that as we age, our blood vessels just act differently, can be getting smaller, etc., and the baby aspirin makes the blood "slicker," so that it would be less likely to clot and create a problem with the placenta.
And lo and behold....we have perfect little Luke now! So in my book, it works!
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31. She was born in June, 2002 - I turned 32 in December. I had no idea that she was going to be my last, as we had wanted at least two more, maybe three, even with the stupid, debilitating hyperemesis gravidarum. Now I am going to be 38 this year and we pretty much know it isn't going to happen, due to all the other health issue that occurred. It makes me so sad, and it hurts my heart.
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I had #8 when I was 41. Between #6 and 7 I had 3 miscarriages, and one between #7 and 8. I would have loved more, but mine were all C sections, and the pregnancies were much harder with the last two(diabetes and placenta previa). I do know someone who had her 6th at 44.
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I had #7 when I was 40 years old (what a great way to turn 40... don't you think? )
Now that she is 10 mths old... and no longer breastfeeding exclusively... I'm wondering if our "track record" will still hold and we will get pregnant again, or if my body is slowing down and she will be our last )
Part of me would love to have a break (I've been reading Goodnight Moon every night for over TEN years!), and part of me cries at the thought of "Grace" being our last.
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Oh... and all of mine were c-sections too, so I've got that to consider. (although "Grace" was my easiest c-section by far!)
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Topic: How old were you when you had your last?
