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Oh, Dearest Mother, Sweetest Virgin of Altagracia, our Patroness. You are our Advocate and to you we recommend our needs. You are our Teacher and like disciples we come to learn from the example of your holy life. You are our Mother, and like children, we come to offer you all of the love of our hearts. Receive, dearest Mother, our offerings and listen attentively to our supplications. Amen.

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Cay Gibson
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Posted: March 08 2008 at 12:12pm \| IP Logged

I had not looked at this thread until this morning.

Ironically, I just asked my oldest son (and first hs graduate) if he felt he had missed out on anything by being hsed. His only answer? "Friends. Sometimes."

But in his case it's a little different. He did go back to school for a couple of high school years and he did make friends there and he let those friendships go because of the things those "friends" began doing...immoral things. My son knew these friends were not good companions.

He has friends now whom he enjoys spending time with but they have buddies they went through school with and still hangout together. I think my son wishes he had a good buddy he'd had for life.

I often wished this too when I was growing up. I only had a brother at home and a new "best friend" every year in school. I read Betsy and Tacy books and wished fervently for a lifelong friend. Books were basically the "lifelong friend" I always dreamed about and I think it developed a desire in me that would not settle for second-best.

I found that friend at the age of 17 and I've been with him for 25 years (married almost 22 of those years

). As for the "Tacy" friend, I didn't find that friend until I was in my 20's...married with children. And now I know it was all in God's plan...and I wouldn't change a thing.

I also remind my children that though I had friendly acquaintances in school, I really only had one good friend who seemed to change each year. I did keep one really good friend (matron of honor) through junior high and high school but then she moved and our lives and interests changes and I don't get to see her often.

As we grow up our friends and acquaintances change. And it's not a bad thing. Change isn't always bad, though it looks big and scary and depressing.

Regarding more serious relationships, just the other day I was talking to my two olders about relationships and my son told me, "There just aren't any good Catholic girls out there."

I reminded him that he has had two good "friendships" with two good Catholic girls. Things just didn't work out the way ds hoped they would. One of those good Catholic girls began college and found a lot of freedom there. Society pulls strongly on our youth...especially if there is not a good homebase and good home relationships to turn to.

And, can I add, a vigiliant mother at home...which is sadly lacking today, even in good Catholic homes.

I have more to say but have to go now.

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Cay Gibson
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Posted: March 10 2008 at 7:56pm \| IP Logged

Cay Gibson wrote:

I have more to say but have to go now.

So I lied.

Really, I don't have time to type much less get my thought process kicked in gear and I'm pretty much only focusing on the Stations the next two weeks. I also don't think I was focusing on the question at hand so it's for the best.

I did see this post at Bruggie Tales and wanted to share: Family Socialisation

"One day all children need to shake off the artificial boundaries of school aged years and confront the world around us. Some can do it younger, others delay the reckoning till their 20's, 30's or even 40's."

I do hope you'll all keep sharing.

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