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Carole N. Forum All-Star
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I am so sorry to be asking for prayers, but I feel caught in a situation that I do not understand and have very little control over. We made the decision to bring our middle ds home this year even before we left the states. We felt it would be in his best interest and ours.
Unfortunately, his "honeymoon" from his RAD symptoms did not take a long break and he was out and about and on the streets. Now we live in a very small town with truly lovely people, but I have been informed by the police that I must put him in school (he claims this is the reason he keeps running away). I was also told it was illegal to homeschool in the UK.
Social services has been called (this could be a positive thing), but nevertheless, I am extremely upset. My last few days have been completely disrupted. My dh even had to leave work early yesterday because our son was violent and disrespectful.
Unfortunately, this is not the side of my ds that the police see. They view me as "someone from another plant" according to my ds. Based on two conversations with him, we are not being responsible parents because all he wants is to go to school in order to meet other children.
I am trying to understand where they are coming from, but unfortunately, they have do not have the history of my son and his schooling experiences.
I am not certain what to do. I have called the school to speak with the director of admissions, but I really feel that ds is so far behind, they will not accept him. My dh has lost hope and feels that we have done all that we can for our child. Please pray for us in discerning what we should do and how we can best handle this situation.
I am sorry that this is so long and disjointed.
__________________ Carole ... in Wales
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Posted: Jan 24 2008 at 9:14am | IP Logged
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Oh Carole, I'm so sorry you're going through this...I will pray for you, your dh and ds, for wisdom and discernment. The authorities are only seeing one side..."all he want is to go to school..." send him to school, problem solved, right? You know it's not so simple, so I will pray for your strength as well.
__________________ Noreen
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Posted: Jan 24 2008 at 9:19am | IP Logged
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Carole, I am praying.
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Carole,
Many, many prayers for you all.
Jen
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Praying, Carole. This is such a difficult situation. My heart goes out to you all.
Peace,
Nancy
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Many prayers being offered for you and your situation, Carole.
And here's a BIG (((HUG))) for extra reassurance.
__________________ Cay Gibson
"There are 49 states, then there is Louisiana." ~ Chef Emeril
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Praying for you and your family, Carole. I can only imagine trying to figure out the "system" in a new country and having to deal with your son's behavior at the same time.
As I am sure you know, homeschooling is legal in the UK, under the Education Act of 1996. You're OK doing what you're doing.
I will pray very hard for you!
__________________ Nancy in MD. Mom of ds (24) & dd (18); 31-year Navy wife, move coordinator and keeper of home fires. Writer and dance mom.
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Anne Forum Pro
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I will be praying for you and your family.
__________________ Anne in TN
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Praying.
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Carole,
Please pm me, we have been through a similiar situation-RAD and all. Blessings to you and please take care of yourself.
__________________ Liz
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Dawn Forum All-Star
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Oh, Carole, what an ordeal. I will pray for your son, and for all of you.
__________________ Dawn, mum to 3 boys
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Margaret Forum Rookie
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I am so sorry Carole. My daughter is still young, but I know your pain . I will pray for you each time I pray for my daughter--and that is continuously!
Love,
Margaret
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Dear Carole. I am praying for you.
Can you pm some of the UK people on this list - I do not think that it is illegal to homeschool in the UK - they may have some advice for you on how to deal with the LEA and Social Services.
__________________ Marilyn
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MarilynW wrote:
Dear Carole. I am praying for you.
Can you pm some of the UK people on this list - I do not think that it is illegal to homeschool in the UK - they may have some advice for you on how to deal with the LEA and Social Services. |
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I pm'd Carole already with info about where she can get advice.
Praying, Carole.
__________________ Kathryn
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Praying for you and your family, Carole.
__________________ Michaela
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Carole, my heart breaks for you! A parent suffers so much when they see their children suffering. You are trying your best to help a son who does not -- cannot -- see how much you all do for him and how much you love him. I cannot imagine how hard this must be! You and your family and all those involved in this are in my prayers. May the Holy Spirit guide you all!
__________________ Janette (4 boys - 22, 21, 15, 14)
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Nina Murphy Forum All-Star
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You have my prayers, Carole.
__________________ God bless,
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Chari Forum Moderator
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Carole I am so sorry for this horrible situation.
Tomorrow we start the Rosary Novena.....we will include your intentions! Can you join us? Either way........your request will be covered.
__________________ Chari...Take Up & Read
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Praying for all of you, Carole.
__________________ stef
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Carole,
I am praying for you and your family!
Dawn
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