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julia s.
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Posted: Dec 15 2007 at 11:04am \| IP Logged

Theresa,
Here are some thoughts for what it's worth.
Two year olds take more time then you think they will -- it's very frustrating to have to slow down a schedule to meet their pace. If he has problem saying words (mine always do) maybe baby signs or signing time videos are in order.
Always love them harder the more they throw their tantrum. Sometimes just a "Wow you're really mad" comment will be enough to throw off a good belt. Always keep your comments level toned and caring (no adult sarcasm -- I say this from experience).
Some kids just need other people around them always, maybe buddy up with the older two and see if you can't provide a buddy for him when you need to have your hands full with other things.
My oldest had sensory integration problems (just a thought) if he's wearing certain cloths or listening to something at the time of the tantrums these might be a good and easy fix to change.
Try to catch it before it happens -- if he is ramping up stop and think about how things could be done differently to give him the security he needs.
Most of his needs will come from you and there is no way around it. Your schedule is just going to have to accommodate it until he's past this.
Because he is bright there might be a tendency to pile on more activities then his nervous system can handle - find mellow ways to have quiet time with him and just relax without having to be overly structured.
Get lots of sleep -- both of you

. Don't try to help him when you're fatigued.
Finally, I hope this list doesn't sound too militant -- you know I care about you and will keep your family in my prayers. These were just some thoughts off the top of my tired sleep-deprived head.

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Posted: Dec 15 2007 at 12:46pm \| IP Logged

Thank you for your thoughts, ladies.I do appreciate all of them.
And have no doubt I WILL figure him out eventually.
But just to add another little twist to the road, he goes this weekend to Florida for a court-ordered visit with his biological father, who he doesn't even know. Please pray that it goes well.

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MarieC
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Posted: Dec 15 2007 at 1:18pm \| IP Logged

Praying for this little guy...and you!

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Posted: Dec 18 2007 at 10:19am \| IP Logged

Theresa, I just want you to know that I am praying for you and this little fella. I know how very hard it is and such a long road. I think the world of you for taking these boys in and for giving them a family, security, and love.

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