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StephanieA
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The older boys never slept over except at my mom's house and then only 4-5 times in their pre-college days.
Their uncle is younger than they are and it was known that video games would be played into wee hours of the morning 
The girls (13 on down) are seldom allowed to sleep over. They do sleep over about once a year at my sister's house.
As far as siblings and friends.....we have 4 girls in a row that spend time together, but the older ones do have outside activites that the youngers ones don't participate in. That said, when a friend of Marie's (13) comes over, she knows that her siblings WILL be invited to play.
When a friend comes to my house to talk to me, my children are included. I don't wander off in inclusion.
I understand that it would be nice to have some time one-on-one, but it errs a bit on charity for the younger ones in our home. Marie's main friend knows this and welcomes the play with the younger ones.
One friend did not and we had to explain this and now it is not a problem either, although they do have private times when the other girls loose interest. But they are not purposefully excluded.
The younger girls are with the older ones during the day, but honestly they don't play. The older ones school and so play time really is looked forward to in the afternoon that the older ones don't have outside activities.
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Stephanie
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We too have a "no sleepovers" policy. We're a military family and have moved on average of every 18-24 mos. Just not adequate time to get to know other families well enough to share overnights with. Though, even if we were in an area for longer, I don't think our policy would change. For us, it's the same as someone else said, "The benefits don't outweigh the risk".
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My kids don't do sleepovers at other people's homes, but not because of a hard and fast rule. We just don't have many friends that do the sleepover thing.
They like to do sleepovers in each other's rooms, so they still get the sleepover experience though, complete with late night giggling and board games! 
As a kid, I had one best friend, and her and I regularly slept over at each other's houses for many years. But I do think that times are different now, and the culture of where I now live is different from the culture I grew up in. I don't know that I'd feel comfortable letting my kids sleepover at someone else's house now.
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No for us too. There have been a FEW exceptions. At their cousins house, in which their little guy is a sleeper and always out by 10, and I know my sister and brother in law are aware of everything, and at the homes of two families in which I completely trusted. I knew 100% that kids would always be supervised, that bedtimes would be enforced--nothing casual or left to chance!
Both dh and I had terrible experiences at sleepovers. Exposure to the occult, pornography, alcohol, members of the opposite sex sneaking in the window, ending up in very bad situations, etc., etc. And my parents WERE careful about who I stayed the night with, and often said "No" despite my begging if they felt unsure. And in general I was a "good" kid, (though not raised in any faith). But I think even "good" kids get tempted by a whole night with adults asleep and no supervision. What happens is they start to think of anything to talk about, or DO, that they know they shouldn't talk about or do, and one thing leads to another. This is not a good situation to put kids in.
Actually I feel pretty passionate about this, based on my own bad experiences which I wish I could erase forever  . It just isn't worth the risk.
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