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Molly, this was me with my last one the month before she was due. I sought outside help ... it was the best thing I did for myself.
I am praying for you.
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In my case, it was my first pregnancy that wreaked the most havoc on my emotions. Like yourself, I could hardly function and was crying ALL the time.
I went straightaway to my doctor--an awesome, Prolife Catholic wife & mother--who said, "Let's get you on some antidepressants." Bingo. I took a small dose of Paxil throughout the remainder of the pregnancy and continued a wee bit beyond my son's birth.
He's now a happy, strapping lad of 10, and I'm a happy, not-so-strapping mom of 5. If you know what I mean. 
Molly, I will pray hard for you because I've been there. Posting your prayer request on this forum is an excellent start, but I would highly recommend talking to your doctor (if you haven't already done so).
God bless you, Sweetie.
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Praying, Molly.
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{{{{Molly}}}}
We are still praying for you! We will pray you right over that finish line..and beyond!
Take care of you, dear lady!
I wish I lived close enough to give you a hand!
God love you!
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Praying, Molly...
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Thank you all! We made it through Mass and even went to the park with friends. It was a nice break, but still very overwhelming by the time we got home.
My midwife prescribed Zoloft for me last week. She told me it was fine for the baby, but when I got home and read the warnings on the medication, then started researching it on the internet, I became very upset because there are significant risks to the baby. I know that there is always the need to weigh the risks and benefits, but I felt really hurt that my midwife was so flippant about it. Now dh is pushing me to find another midwife and I feel even more paralyzed. 
My mil is coming in two weeks, and staying for two weeks. Hopefully that will help both to get things more together here and to distract me some.
I really, really appreciate the prayers and support. I do have friends here who have offered to help. It is hard to know what to ask for though. I guess the clutter and the noise are what are unbearable right now, and the guilt of feeling that I am letting them down. I am trying really hard to concentrate on the baby, and just relax with the kids, but the panic comes in waves and I can't think.
Off to bed now, hoping everyone sleeps! God bless you all, you are a blessing to me.
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My heart goes out to you and I am praying!
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Molly,
How about you ask a friend or two to help the kids organize a "shower". Not in the traditional sense. What I mean is that your friends might organize a shower of love and service for you. They could straighten up the house and help get things ready for the baby. Make it pretty for you. I think you had mentioned that your girls are involved in Challenge? Maybe their group could do a service project - what a wonderful testament to LIFE!
Then maybe you could take the afternoon with another girlfriend or two - or with Court. Just see a movie, have some lunch, get a facial... It is NOT too indulgent. You are a mother, you are helping God to transmit life. He loves you and wants you to feel good and whole.
Take a walk outdoors, if you are able. Cut out as many sweet foods, fried, and starchy foods as you can. Increase green leafies and protein. I found that the depression at the end of my pregnancy with Louis (which was the worst of my babes), was largely settled with diet. I ate a lot of beautiful chef salads with dark greens, boiled eggs, farmers cheese, chicken, 'maters, olives... Wash it down with a tall glass of water with a lemon in it. Delish!
Fresh air and quiet was also important. Just 10 minutes set aside for you to breathe deeply of fresh air and offer prayers can feel SO much better.
Air the house for about 20 minutes a day - I know it's getting cold, but I promise, it's a wonderful thing!
I'm praying that you will get everything sorted with your midwife. Just tell her you ar enot comfortable taking this medication after what you've been reading. Ask for clarification as to why she prescribed it. If you're still not comfortable, ask for some natural alternatives. If Court is feeling too overwhelmed (husbands often are in these situations), bring along a girlfriend who can be a strong advocate for you. If your MW wonders why you're bringing her, just tell her you're going out to lunch after your appt! 
It's times like these, I wish we all lived near each other. Don't try to organize all this yourself. Copy this and paste into an email to your best girlfriends. let them organize for you. Remember that people WANT to help. They just need to be asked. Folks are afraid of offering the wrong kind of help.
(((HUGS)))
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Molly, I am continuing to keep you in prayer. 
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Molly, I recall with one of my pregnancies on bedrest emailing my local homeschool group and just saying "I need help!"
moms organized meals, taking the kids, and cleaning. It was all out of my control, and very humbling and embarassing at first. (I cringed knowing another mom was on her hands and knees scrubbing out my bathtub!) but it was a true miracle for myself and my family.
I love Nissa's idea of just forwarding on her e mail. tell the local moms that we all "made" you do it
Don't feel bad about your kids either. My kids have seen me have many breakdowns and days of crying. I always was very open about telling them I just did not feel well, and it was not their fault at all. I could not get through reading a Read Aloud book without sobbing. everything seemed hopeless.
Praying for you everyday.
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Thank you. Especially Nissa and Lisa.
Nissa you have some great ideas. I know you had mentioned diet before and I was trying, but here I am eating Halloween candy while reading your post! 
Some of my dearest friends have been reading this post and offered to come over and help out. But it is truly a humbling feeling to allow someone else into my messy world! When I was pregnant and moving two years ago, I had to ask for help and it really was hard. It is just as bad now.
One hard thing for me right now is when friends,some fairly close, most not, ask me how I am. I always feel like the "correct" response is "I'm fine". I don't want to burden anyone or make them uncomfortable. I hate any focus on myself. But then I feel like I am wearing a mask. And yet, in my good moments, I feel like I am just overreacting and looking for attention.
Sorry, my thoughts are a little jumbled here. I am just so glad it is Friday and Court will be home for two days! He brings a calming presence and I am more relaxed and productive when he is here.
Thank you all!!
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I am married to a high profile low-wage earner .
that can be a tricky combination - I used to try really hard to always make it look like we were the "model" "Catholic Family Life -Family" and also had it all together financially- that everything was fine fine fine and I did not like to talk very "deeply" about my personal stuff.
I strugled with analyzing my every action, word, thought. Would "they" think I was being dramatic if I told them how bad things really were? WOuld "they" think we were a joke and that dh should not have his job leading thousands of others when our boys are so WILD and our house is often chaotic?
and so on.
We all need each other. We all have a desire to feel needed as well. If we "have it all together" then that is when true isolation can occur.
I decided quite some time ago that I had a difficult time enough trying to figure out my own emotions, and that it would be wrong of me to pre judge another and to think they would not want to hear about how I really felt, or that if I showed weakness it would make them uncomfortable.
I am glad the weekend is here for you!
I cannot remember if I mentioned this or not but checking one's progesterone levels before, during each trimester, and after pregnancy against what the "norms" are might be a good place to start- to determine if this really is a seretonin issue- or a hormonal one..
Peace of Christ,
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teachingmyown wrote:
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 Oh, girl... I'll tell you what. It's just not fair that candy comes at Halloween.
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Boy, I know what you mean. But you know what? We all have mess sometimes. And I bet it's less dramatic than you think. Anyway, even if it looks like a tornado just ripped through your house, it's nothing anybody hasn't seen before.
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That's totally a mom thing. I had the same trouble when I was in a wheelie last year. But when you let people help, it blesses them too! And you know you want to help others and wish they'd ask. Now maybe they'll have a beautiful humble example to follow. It really comes to humbling ourselves to ask for help. Remember that He often sends the weakest to lead.
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Not at all jumbled. You were completely lucid. And thank goodness for the gift of our husbands. And for our friends.
Blessings,
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