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Rachel May
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Praying for you and all of us. We all need divine help to be good mothers.
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I am praying here for your intentions too!
I have learned from some of my own children that love is often a deliberate choice that bears such wonderful fruit. Sometimes God throws an interesting personality in the mix and it does add wonderful things to our family life, but some aspects of the personality need a lot of love and care....and sometimes it shows me aspects of my personality that I need to work on.
For example...I have one child that I HAVE to go slow with...(and I have a LOT to get done!!)...so I go slower and take a deep breath..trying to serve with a smile..that is my new mommy-character building lesson...smiling when I don't want to!LOL
I keep trying to find the "little things" that I can "do with great love" I can only handle little things. Those little things really add up. I am also trying lately to make eye contact with them and find something positive to say to them sometime during the day. I am also working on the eye contact thing when I have to make them do a chore and they don't want to. I found myself looking away or not turning around to look at them when I told them to do it...little things like eye contact seem to make things better for me by way of understanding them and they me...little things
I have a few dc that can drive me nuts at times...but God knows them and me. He wants us together for a reason and knows that I can help each child grow and become whoever God created that child to be. And in turn, that child can help my dh and I grow too. He chose me from all women to be that child's mom and gave me the graces to do so, even if the growing of those seeds of grace is hard at times. I sometimes have to take a step back and really wonder..."I wonder what God has in mind for you..." I think I remember Padre Pio's mom saying something like..."whatever will become of you" ...you gotta wonder...
God love you!
Donna Marie from NJ
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Praying for you. I know from where you speak. God bless,
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Saying a prayer!
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I, too struggle with wanting to be more cheerful and gentle.
We've been hard on our oldest, too. Its hard to see them as very young, since they are the oldest.
Its not until I saw the others growing under him that I realized how young he was when I expected certain things on him. . .and I'm sure that's continuing, although I'm trying. Dh struggles with it too.
I bet you're not as bad as you think you are. Just the fact that you reached out shows a good mother.
I'll pray for you today along with all of us with this problem.
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My prayers are with you, graciefaith. I, too, have struggled with this in the past (and it sneaks back in from time to time.) In addition to the sound suggestions already made, one thing that has helped me has been to go with my strengths when forming new habits within myself. Let me give you an example of one of my failures  . I knew that I was not "crafty" yet there was a time when I felt compelled to "be a good mother" and "do crafts" with my small children. This only left me frustrated beyond tears and ripe for my own temper tantrums. I pitched the idea. Now...I love to read books. I especially love picture books. I mean, I LOVE them. So that is where I began to practice pleasant mommy habits...while reading books to my children.
I can just feel your love and concern for your children through your prayer request. My guess is that not only do you need to expect less of your child...you may need to expect less of yourself  . Since you know that you aren't inclined to sloth, give yourself permission to start your own habit formation process slowly, but surely. Pick one thing...to smile...to read...to play on the floor...to watch a movie and make popcorn...whatever is your joyful strength, then move on to the more difficult things from there.
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Dear Gracie,
(((HUGS))) and prayers, my friend.
I suggest you read our own dear Alice's blog on a daily (or weekly) basis.
I walk away a better mother every time I read her entries.
For starters, read:
In Which We Become Victims...
A Ride on the Cable Car
Table with a View
Flowers in our Path
And, because I have run out of computer time, I'll leave one parting link that I think will do you a world of good in becoming the "better mother" that you (and all of us) clamor to become. I really think we need to follow Alice's example of beauty and grace as we sow seeds in the lives of our children.
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Dear gracie,
I will keep you close in prayer as I also can relate to your situation as I to struggle with these issues sometimes. Thank you for your post it has inspired many mothers to give great gifts of wisdom.
What a wealth of beautiful ideas and support. 
I have one child that I seem to have many troubles with but I think from all these beautiful motherly insights we can only get better.
Thank you for these gifts of wisdom.
God Bless
Chemai 
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CAY!
I love you with all my heart! I don't come close to deserving this one bit, but it is so unbelievably nice of you.
I love you, dear friend.
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Praying for you, Gracie, and asking your prayers and everyone's that I can be a better mother and live up to all those ideals I too often fall short in achieving.
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