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dh travels about 30min in am and up to 45-60 min in the evening . His work is very seasonal so in summer hrs he may not get home till 10pm then the ride could be only 20min .
This job compared to last yes much much better as before he'd be out of town for up to two weeks even 3 weeks at a time .,
As I got older I couldn't handle him being away
Also the biggest difference is our younger children have way more Dad time . He used to work weekends as well . Now we take day trips almost each weekend with the younger two they make things together , go fishing etc.
So the comute for us doesn't really effect us that much .
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Dh travels 60km and it takes him 40min on a good run. He enjoys driving but I worry, there have been so many deaths on that highway  My prayer is that he gets transferred to the office in our town which would then only be a 15km-15min trip 
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My dh has a 30 minute commute on mostly country roads. There are days we wish he was closer to work, but we like living out here! In the winter it can be hard. The commute time is a little longer--and if he would have bought the 4 wheel drive vehicle I suggested vs his little sporty car it might be easier, but....  IF I had to be back in the "city" I would probably be OK with it--you trade some social things by living out in the boonies. But while my kids are young I am liking it.
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Dh's commute is about 70 minutes door-to-door each way. We're just 2 minutes from the train station, and then he rides the train to DC, which takes about an hour.
It's not ideal. The train ride keeps his sanity, as he can rest and read and pray. If he was driving I think we would have moved a long time ago. He leaves around 6-6:30 and returns about 6:30. His schedule does allow him to take off every other Friday.
It's his biggest cross. He doesn't like his job and he doesn't like being so far away. He came from a small town in PA, where he and his father could come home for lunch (dh was in school) and dinner was at 5:15. There was more family and relaxing time. During the week dh has very little time for himself. He keeps up with the bills, household needs, and always tries to reserve time to play with ds.
But we went back and forth and up and down and all sides. This was the compromise. We could afford this house with the larger yard (although it's in an HOA) and be near family and church. Those are the biggest benefits. I'm very close to two of my sisters (walking distance to one house, 1 minute drive to another). My parents live 7 miles away, and a brother is really close. We get together often, the cousins play together, and we have our support system for times of need. Another blessing -- dh gets along very well with his brothers-in-law.
To lessen his commute would mean more expense, less house and yard, and almost isolation. We couldn't afford it. We thought about moving out further to be more "rural" but adding to his commute just wasn't wise.
I pray you can sort it out, Amy. It's definitely a sacrifice, more for dh. We miss him terribly, but he has to endure the hardships.
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My dh commutes 45 minutes each way. He is a Chemical eng working in a paper mill. We have resigned ourselves to the fact that, because the nature of his work, he is probably always have to have some kind of commute. Paper mills tend to be out of town :-). I like to live in a somewhat bigger town that the one closest to the mill and so does he. The 45 minutes are not in bad traffic and he has never complained. He uses the time to think and to listen to books on tape. It is a bit of a problem when they have a problem at the mill and he has to travel the distance in the middle of the night. Also the gas prices are a problem right now. I have never had it any other way so I don't know what is like to have a dh come home for lunch but I wouldnt' mind trying it out :-)
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Anne McD wrote:
Mary G wrote:
DH and I are very spoiled -- it takes him about 15 minutes to walk to work! And on beautiful days, we can walk (about 1 mi) to church; we also have a grocery, library and other important places within walking distance. We love it! Ever since we lived in the small village in Austria, our goal has been to be within walking distance .... we finally have it!
so to answer the original question, Amy, 15 minute commute on foot. |
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Oh we would love you to move here! But don't base it on Mary G.'s husband's commute. They are the only people I know here who currently have a walk to work type situation. It helps that he is a teacher and they live near the school. Most of the business and tech industry is not particualrly close the housing areas (not ones you would want to live in with families anyway!).
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Dh's morning drive time is 30-40 minutes, but only because he leaves by 5 or 5:30. 
Coming home, traffic can be a bear, and could take anywhere from 60-90 minutes, if during the "afternoon rush." For that reason, he usually waits to leave around 6, and can be home between 6:30 or 7.
He works Saturdays, too, but the traffic is lighter and takes 30 minutes, usually, each way.
I would love to relocate to be closer to his office (he bought this cpa practice, and as it is in a good location on a main road, he is kind of stuck there.)
But, housing prices are falling and the market here in metro Detroit is terrible! Houses just aren't moving. Also, to live closer to his work, we would be trading one suburban area for another. Here, we have so many things in walking distance.
The only other thing I would like, besides a short commute for dh, would be land! Not even acres, just a yard bigger than ours that I could garden (ours is 70x120, with too many old oaks and maples to get a shovel in the ground!)
Also, I feel bad that dh has to drive so much. Unfortunately, public transportation is pathetic here in the "Motor City" area. (Dh would welcome the reading time, vs. wasting it driving!)
Not much help, here, I guess!
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We are in the same boat (or car, or bus, or train . . . ) as many of the Washington, DC area people. Dh's commute is at least an hour and a half each way. He drives 10 minutes to a bus stop, takes a bus to a Metro station and takes the Metro rail the rest of the way into Washington. He walks another 10 minutes or so to his office. It is a huge cross for both of us. He walks in the door close to 7pm every night, so we don't finish dinner until close to 8pm. Thank God for homeschooling, which allows us to have late bedtimes for the kids.
I must say that dh is a saint about the commute. I could never do what he does on a daily basis and come in the door in the mood that he does. Yes, he's tired and it wears on him, but he handles it amazingly well and gives us his all when he is home. 
One benefit of his new job is that he can take public transportation. He listens to audiobooks and reads the paper or books. He previously had a commute that was just as long, but he had to drive the entire way.
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So I asked dh just how far and how long it takes him to commute. It takes around 30 minutes to travel 12 miles as most of it is on base driving (coasting more like) really slowly out of the marina and past the runways and out of the gate, then drive like mad for 5-10 minutes depending on the traffic lights, then enter base #2 and drive/coast the longest part of the drive clear out to the very end and over the bridge onto the Key where he works.
He wants to move the S/V Mari Hal-O-Jen over to the other side of the Keys and anchor out this summer, then the commute would look more like this - drop into dinghy, fire up the outboard, buzz over to the dock and presto! He's at work. 5 minutes max, maybe.
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When we lived in the St. Louis area, dh's commute was about 90 minutes because of traffic. He often didn't get home until after 7 PM. But... in order to afford a house in a decent neighborhood with a nice yard, those were the suburbs we needed to go to. The commute did affect our decision to move, but it wasn't the deciding factor. Dh's job there left a lot to be desired, so that he always wondered what he was commuting so long *for*.
When we moved up here, we decided to only look within a 30 minute commute, but his job is in the boondocks and we couldn't actually afford a house in the suburbs anyway. Dh has a 20 minute commute here, but he travels *much* more with this job. The job itself is a lot better, but neither one of us like the traveling, and dh has an hour drive to the train station and the airport. I drive farther here, too -- vision therapy, doctor's appointments, shopping -- all of those are about an hour's drive for me. None of us want to go back to a suburban life because we like having the 15 acres, but I think that a longer commute at a job dh liked vs constant traveling would be somewhat more preferable. 
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