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Please please pray for my sister and my mom and dad!
My sister is a beautiful girl, sweet, sensitive, and shy. Over the last three years or so my parents have been having an increasingly difficult time with her. She has become rebelious, untrustworthy, sneaky, withdrawn, angry, will tell friends that she hates her life and her parents, and I think she is depressed as well.
Recently, my parents have been talking to a counselor that they want her to go to and the counselor pointed out that many things about my sister are signs of someone who has been s*xually molested.
i can hardly write this . . .
Now they know that this dates back to a time three years ago, when she was 15 that she spent the night at her friends house. This friend is a great girl from a really good Catholic family, but the older son, who was prob. 17 or 18 at the time, has always been a flirt. Since then he's been getting worse, but it must have just been starting then b/c my parents didn't know he was any more than flirty. . . My sister had a innocent crush on him. And he molested her that night.
My parents didn't know for sure until now.
My mom was really crying when she talked to me. All my sister says about going to a counselor is "you can't make me talk." My mom is struggling with blaming herself for letting my sister go to the friend's house (b/c she doesn't like sleepovers as a rule) -- but how was she to know?? It just breaks my heart to think of the burden my sister is carrying and how it's affected her life. she is closing down, refuses to cry about things because it's "weak," wears black alot of the time, watches and likes movies like Saw, listens to angry music and . . . it's so hard to see!
Now I'm crying and I wrote more than I meant to . . . just keep her and my parents in prayer for a while. (And me too, because I sometimes just want to kill that kid.) I don't know what's going to happen . . . Thank you so much for all your prayers. God bless you all.
UPDATE May 2 2007:
I want to thank all of you for your prayers and your kind words. I am so grateful and amazed to see all of you praying for us! I'm sure that the prayers are helping. Things are looking up right now. My sister, while still not completely willing to open up, has at least agreed to go to the counselor, realizing that she is mostly hurting herself by not going. My parents have been able to talk to her a bit and are hopeful that maybe together with the counselor her anger can be worked through. It may be a long road, but things don't look so black as they did and that is thanks to all of you and the grace of God.
Please continue to pray for my sister if she ever crosses your mind in the months ahead. Know that I am eternally grateful and am praying for all of your intentions as well.
God bless.
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Praying for healing all around.
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How very sad. Be assured of many prayers here offered for your sister, you and your family.
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Praying for your sister, you and your family ... this is so sad ...
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Oh prayers...
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Oh... I'm hurting for her and your family as well. I will be praying for her.
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Praying for your sister and your family.
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Please, please, please, as someone who can truly say "been there, done that", please convince her to go to a counselor. She needs to talk, and even if she only listens to what the counselor says, that will be a step in the right direction for her.
I'll be praying for her.
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Prayers for your family. I have a girlfriend who had a similar thing happen to her. Her parents took in a teenager who ended up molesting almost every child in the family! She carried this for YEARS, had so much denial, problems manifested themselves in other ways...very serious ones. You just can't bury this stuff!
It wasn't until she FINALLY went to a counselor that she was able to heal. The counseling paired with someone who gave her spiritual direction throughout helped her so much. I echo Paula's advice...she will feel better talking to someone.
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Prayers for healing and strength for all of you, most especially your sister.
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I will be praying......
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Praying for you all, especially that your beloved sister will find the courage to go to listen to the counselor.
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This breaks my heart. I'll be praying and praying for this poor, sweet girl...
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Many prayers. My heart breaks for all of you.
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Praying for her emotional and spiritual healing and for grace for your whole family.
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Praying.
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My prayers are with you all. I am so sorry that your sister and all of you are having to go through this!
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I am crying with you.....will keep all of you in our Rosaries and daily Memorare.
You are not alone  , we will hold you in prayer.
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Praying your sister will find a counselor she can connect with...and trust. Praying for healing for all of you, especially your sister.
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Praying for everyone that is part of this pain. We have similar experiences in our own family, so I think I can really understand what your family is going through. Yes, your sister needs to talk; no, no one can make her. If she goes into counselling for her depression,etc., it's very likely to evolve into counselling for the root of the problem, especially as your sister develops trust in the therapist. Might I suggest that it would also be helpful for your mother to seek counselling? As she processes and comes to understand her feelings about what happened, she will be in a better position to encourage your sister.
Praying.
Peace,
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