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Jane Ramsey
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Prayers and hugs, Nina.
Stay strong.
I agree with everyone above. Be respectful ,but don't be defensive. You don't have to defend your parenting decisions to anyone.
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Nina,
No, you are NOT crazy for not allowing you kids to go out to AZ w/ your dad.
My dad keeps asking me if he can take my oldest daughter to IRELAND when she's 10...I keep saying "We'll see..." hoping that he'll just drop it. She's only 7 (almost 8) now. My dh says NO WAY and I feel the same way. If my dad ever pins me down and says, "Can I take Mary Beth to Ireland THIS summer?" and has specific (rather than general plans) plans, I will say, "No, Matt and I feel that she's too young for a trip like that. If you'd like to take her on a trip, we can talk about it again when she's 15 or 16." Really, our concerns center around things other than her age, but I don't want to get into that with my dad.
Anyway...I can relate...my dad isn't as pushy as yours is, but I'm sure that eventually he's going to want a yes or no answer and then he might get mad. 
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KC in TX
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Big cyber hugs to you, Nina. Everyone has given you great advice.
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Nina Murphy
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Thank you all for keeping the love coming!!! I have become preoccupied with other things (of course) so it hasn't been at the forefront of my mind. I'm sure your prayers helped. But I never "dealt" with it. I actually never responded to that last mail--- You are now reminding me that perhaps I ought to, and take it as an opportunity from the Holy Spirit to resolve it. I think I am a little on the defensive and should just remind him that everything we decide IS with the children's best interests in mind, and not our own.
(The following has notes of bitterness....I warn you: please all FORGIVE me ahead of time for letting off steam and don't read if you will be scandalized!  )
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I DEFINITELY should not write what I want to: Dad, you should have thought about what was best for YOUR kids....before you (divorced Mom, got remarried, lived with those two women, got remarried again, when on all of those "self-fulfilling" explorations and trips without Mom, etc. etc......fill in the blank), not just think of yourself. Then maybe my kids COULD be visiting you (and MOM as it should be).
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juststartn
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Nina, not scandalized here...
And nothing but ((((HUGS)))) for you (and your mom)
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Paula in MN
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Nina, I agree with everyone else. They are YOUR kids, so YOU and your husband get to make the decisions.
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