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Rachel -
Nothing to add to the great advice several of the ladies have given you. Just wanted to say Happy Birthday. You're in my prayers.
Peace,
Nancy
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4 lads mom wrote:
| Just a thought...if you can't get a babysitter, and really want your dh at the appt so the doc can talk to him..... maybe you can call ahead to the doc's office, and ask if the nurse can watch the kiddos while you talk with your hubbie and the doc. |
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I've gone to MANY ob appointments with kids in tow--up to four of 'em age 8 and under. I don't ask permission (easier to ask for forgiveness), I just do it, because I have to. When it's time for the internal, I line them up along the hall wall, tell them (sternly) to behave themselves, and then pray that they do.  They don't always, but the worst thing they've done is embarrass me with their noise. Or fighting.
It's worth a try if there are no other options.
Many prayers, Rachel--and happy birthday!
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Well, the nurses will NOT watch the dc. Period. Policy. Not even long enough for a quick internal. And with my youngest not being 3...oooo....bad idea. LOL (she's the one who was seeing how much soap she could get out of the dispenser before the midwife and I noticed at one of my visits....).
I am going to try and get DH to come--and give the dr a call first, to see if he cannot say SOMETHING to him...even in a "LOOK, BUB!" sort of way. LOL
He did take us all out to dinner tonight, which was nice. Of course, they screwed up his order, and it didn't come out til we were all ready to leave...
But I didn't have to cook...he got a three hour nap, I got maybe 20 min of rest....sigh.
THe girls are tubbing at the moment and will be pj'd and bedded down before too much longer, thank the blessed Lord....
Thanks for the advice ladies, and the knowledge that I am A)not alone out there, and B) people are praying for me, really makes matters more bearable.
Thank you so much
Rachel
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No advice but know that I'll be praying for you. 
And I hope you have a very happy birthday and a wonderful year!!
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Rachel, I know the trials of the military "medical" system (well enough to want to be free of it forever!). If it just can't work out that your dh can come, the phone call idea sounds wonderful. Just a thought, though...it's been my experience that most docs give out the "best case" scenario as the "typical" experience. It's only when you're already into the scenario, best case or otherwise, that they tell you that the "average" experience isn't what they'd described to you. (Once this happened to me as I was being prepped for a laparoscopy! The doc said that there was a good chance I'd have to stay in hospital after he'd said over and over that outpatient surgery was the only possibility. I told him I had to leave if he couldn't guarantee outpatient surgery, as I'd told my son I'd be home that evening. Grrr.)
I guess where I am going with this is that you will need to ask your doctor/nurse midwife to really level with you and your dh about the likelihood of a C-section, premature labor and birth, total bed rest and so on. Otherwise I fear you will get the "rose-colored glasses" viewpoint and your dh won't understand if things are less than ideal as the birth of your babies approaches.
I can state unequivocally that C-section recovery was tough for me, and I have I high, high threshold of pain. One surprise I learned upon discharge from Bethesda Naval Hospital was that Maryland state law prohibited me from driving a car for a month (!) because I had a general anesthesia during my emergency C. Hmmm. Guess who had to go buy all the diapers and groceries? On short notice? (Guess why I usually give diapers as a baby shower gift for first-time mommies...with a tag that the gift is for the daddy to use in an emergency?  )
I can truly appreciate that your dh has a LOT on his plate right now, as NCOIC. He has a lot of young enlisted folks turning to him for pre-deployment guidance. He has people trying to avoid the deployment by whatever means possible. He has superiors with high expectations. It is really, really hard to bring all of the loose ends together just as the deployment date arrives. I can understand your concerns and I can, through my experiences with my own husband, appreciate your dh's distractions, as well.
Please know that I'll be praying for you, and I'll ask my husband to pray for your dh in a special way, too.
From across the miles...I wish we were closer to you...I'd be down there in a heartbeat to help out!
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Thank you so much.
I've already got "Mt Diaper" going in the school/dressing/sewing room....Probably over 1000, of size Ns and 1s. Some size 2s, only because I've gotten some of those 1-2 combo packs, lol.
I've got alot of the shopping done, honestly. He'll be needing to deal with the cleaning, the cooking, etc...and depending on when things happen, the bill paying (since he's gone so much, I'm the one who pays them, so it could be very interesting, lol...).
We're going to have to get over this...this....denial? One way or the other. I am just praying that it isn't at a very high cost.
I will make certain to get the drs to level with me...and with DH. I don't know that I will be able to get him to the clinic...but I know I am going to have to have the dr speak to him at some point, whether in person or via phone...
Thanks, everyone
Rachel
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Rachel, happy birthday to you! I'll keep you in my prayers.
And I just wanted to say that I give you and all the military wives here so much credit. When my son was over in Iraq, I was active in the FRG and met a lot of the wives. Also the other moms of soldiers. But the wives have it so much worse. I had the worries about the safety of my son. But of course all the wives had that too. But otherwise, I could just pretend that my son was away at college. He was deployed right after his 1st semester at school. I didn't have any of the day to day problems that you all face with deployments, with husband and father gone. I didn't have to deal with Tri-care. You are all the unsung heroines in my book!! 
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momtomany wrote:
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Ditto, for all the millitary wives-- you too are serving our country by your sacrifice, and we are so, so grateful for it!!! 
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Dear Rachel,
I know how frustrated you must be. Seriously, you must take care of yourself and your babies. I am sure your Dr. has told you this but baby boys are the most vulnerable multiples.
I know you said you do not hurt, but you have to really stop yourself from the compulsion to do more than what is safe. Heck I would be over safe in your position. I know the true suffering that enforced inactivity can bring.
May I gently suggest that you take this time to offer this specific part of the pregnancy up? You are probably making so much use already of the suffering from the pregnancy, but offering up specifically the urge to do more than you really should would be very effective. It will help you focus on the boys and on the very moment d oing all that you can for their sake (which means not doing much) !
I have known many moms who are wonderful fabulous moms that simply want to care of their family but end up really overdoing it healthwise. It is even harder with a DH who truly is oblivious. You cannot force him to see the light is he is sticking his head in the sand and that cannot keep you from doing what you know is right.
No one will be happy with a mom in the hospital on bedrest, or worse and 'I told you so's' are just not worth it. I hope I am not being too blunt, but your post really seemed to almost be asking for some good old motherly admosnishment like, "It doesn't matter what he's doing or not doing, just get your booty back on that couch! Put down that laundry basket and that dirty dish right now and put your feet up!"
I will pray for you and the babies and also that your DH will 'get a clue' My DH has a very happy go lucky nature and it drives me crazy sometimes that I think he doesn't face or understand my concerns. However, this type of guy usually steps it up when the pedal hits the metal so to speak so even if he doesn't seem concerned or worried now, he would do anything at all if an urgent need arose. Now getting his sense of urgency to match up with mine? That is a work in progress 
Lots of hugs and prayers,
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Happy belated Birthday, Rachel!
Here is my birthday present to you:
God has inspired the kids and I to "adopt" you
that means we pray for you daily and even more
we have been needing someone else to focus on besides ourselves 
the funny thing is, I asked them if they would be willing to "adopt" you, before you even started this thread, like the day before.......and, then, when I saw this thread, I just knew God was affirming our choice
Hope you do not mind
Just know, there are six kids here on the other side of the country, praying for you everyday, starting with a daily Memorare.
We are all wishing we could just PHYSICALLY come "adopt" you 
Blessings to you and yours,
Can't wait to "meet" your boys, in LATE spring!
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