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Ruth - I am so sorry. My Mom reacts badly too. She eventually gets over it, but it is so hard to feel so hurt by our own Mothers. Many prayers and hugs your way.
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My mother-in-law said the exact same thing for #3 and #4. In fact, she didn't talk to us for a few months after announcing #3. She hung up the phone.
What hurt extra deeply about that was that my mother had just died a few weeks before I got pregnat. My husband and I saw #3 as a gift from the Lord. A reward for all the heartache of my mom's cancer.
My MIL thought it was disgusting. 
That has strained our relationship actually. Neither one of us can forget that. She shows pictures of the kids to her friends...I feel like saying "too bad you thought we should abort her" 
FYI, we are supporting ourselves, live a decent life and never ask anyone for anything. So, it's not like our life was in shambles or anything.
Well, WE ARE HAPPY THAT YOU ARE EXPECTING #7!!! 
I find all of my internet friends to understand me better than family and acquaintances.
Those who are devout (in any faith) will always be persecuated by the world and their standards. It is just the life that we lead.
BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!! 
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If it makes a difference, *I* am so happy for you!  My mother does not get angry with me, but she does worry. I think I've written here before that my youngest sister, who my mother had when she was 42, is Down's Syndrome. My mom doesn't want any of us to have children with special needs. I've seen how much commitment and how much time and energy this child has exacted from my mother, even though she's high functioning.
What's at the root of her anger? Might she be displacing her anger where her actual feeling is concern? I don't know your mom, or even you very well Ruth, to know what is lying behind the turmoil. Just trying to help you see what's underneath her outward actions.
Hope I've helped in some small way.
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Ruth,
First of all, congratulations on the news of a new little precious blessing from the Lord! PRAISE GOD for this new life, and what a blessing for your family!!!
I am so sorry that you are enduring such pain right now from your mom. It always saddens me to my core when people do that to their family. Seek the Lord right now, and allow your dh to comfort you as well.
Just focus, and think about the time when you stand before the Lord.........the gentle smile on His face, and the beautiful love in His eyes. Let that fill you with joy right now, knowing the words that will come from His mouth.....*Thank you! Well done, my good and FAITHful servant!*
May you be blessed with a healthy, happy pregancy, birth, and precious one! I have lifted you in prayer. 
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Taffy wrote:
Ruth, I'm going to say to you what your mother should have said...
You're expecting again? How wonderful!!! You're such a kind and generous person to be so open to life. Your children are incredibly lucky to have a mother who's so devoted to her role as a mother to welcome each and every child that comes. Bless you!
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I love this, Taffy. Way to go.
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Wow! I'm speechless.  The outpouring of love form all of you in unbelievable. Thank you. I feel like I have one great big family around me.
I have not spoken to my mom today; I call her everyday, otherwise she calls me. I don't plan on calling her for a while. I'm not sure what to say to her, or to my brothers.
Last year, when I got hospitalized for a possile brain tumor, my brothers came to see me and all they said was, "This is why you should never have had so many kids. This is very selfish of you."
I'm going to take some time away from them, and maybe they'll get how hurtful they have been to us. I don't know.
Thank you again for your beautiful words. I'm very blessed to be a part of this forum.
God bless you.
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Ruth,
I read this thread last night and am speechless. As you know my Irish temper I had a few things to say to your brothers...they weren't too charitable. ugh!! I am so sorry for your pain. I am,of course,totally thrilled about your new baby.
You are a wonderful and beautiful mother who is so open and caring with your children. I am beyond happy that Our Lord has blessed you with another child to love and serve Him in this life.
Praying for your peace and healing over these comments.
I should give you my in-laws or my parents phone #...the would be estastic to receive a call about baby #7 from any of their kids. The ironies of life,huh?!?
You deserve more respect from your family.
Prayers....
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Ruth,
Praying for you and for your extended family to have a change of heart.
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Ruth,
Praying.
In Christ,
Deborah
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Praying, Ruth, for your family to come around.
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Ruth, you have my prayers and congratulations!
I, also, got flak from family when we announced each new baby after the first couple.  I got to the point, I dreaded making the announcement, and started postponing it as long as I could (I got all the way to 5 months with one!) I have a number of local friends who also get this.
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Oh Ruth I could have written your post! With every pregnancy I don't tell my family until I am about 6 mos. It helps that they are in Calif. and I'm in Ohio.
As I had cancer I always get the "you are so selffish, what if you die and leave all these children motherless" Like I had no thought of that before Praise God for Zelie MArtins example!!!
I am so sorry for your pain. A priest told me that when I am attacked like that, to pray for the attacker, because your prayers are the most powerful of all prayers for their souls. They are attacking Christ and his church not you.
I will pray for your emotional strength and fortitude to stand up in this hereoic manner. You are under going "white martyerdom" use this suffering it is very powerful.
I thank you for having another soul for Christ, and standing for the truth, it is not easy these days. You are an example to us all.
Blessings on you and that tiny soul you are carrying.
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molly wrote:
They are attacking Christ and his church not you.
I will pray for your emotional strength and fortitude to stand up in this hereoic manner. You are under going "white martyerdom" use this suffering it is very powerful.
I thank you for having another soul for Christ, and standing for the truth, it is not easy these days. You are an example to us all.
Blessings on you and that tiny soul you are carrying.
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Thank you, Molly. That was beautiful. I keep thinking about how upset I am with my mom, and how I should pray for her every time I think about her. I'm 1 hour south of my family and 1 hour north of my in-laws, so it's not easy to hide the baby. I'm just going to avoid talking to them until I can think of what to say. In the meantime, I will continue to pray for them, like you said. Thank you for those beautiful words.
God bless you all.
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God bless, you, Ruth!
You are a tremendously UNSELFISH person. Those who call you selfish would not dare to walk a mile in your shoes and find out just how much you lay down your life every moment of every day for your children.
We are so happy for you! And you have every right to be happy too! Do not let anyone spoil your happiness!
Love and prayers.
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