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Posted: Dec 27 2005 at 1:12pm | IP Logged Quote JSchaaf

A little background-
I spent 4 years in the Air Force as a Neonatal Intensive Care nurse. After I got married and got out of the service I went to grad school to become a Neonatal Nurse Practitioner. I worked as a NNP full-time for a couple of years, and then part-time on and off until May 2004 when I become a fulltime, SAHM. (Wasting my education and years of training, says my mother!)

Well, my 5 yo has an appt tomorrow morning in the peds clinic. She's seeing one of my fellow NICU nurses from my AF days-who is now a high-ranking pediatric nurse practitioner-you know,money, respect, big office, etc. etc.

I know it's silly-but I feel a little apprehensive about seeing her. I feel inadequate and a little bit jealous about her success.

Make me feel better, please!

Jennifer
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Posted: Dec 27 2005 at 1:26pm | IP Logged Quote ladybugs

We like you, we like you! We really, really like you!

Ok, so perhaps that wasn't the validation that you are seeking.

Dear Jennifer,

You have been through so much...I bet that the nurse will admire you! You lose your home and possessions in the hurricane, you move to NY, you move, you move again....I bet your friend will be the one wishing she was you in terms of what you have, too...a loving husband and beautiful family.

Padre Pio used to advocate sending his guardian angel to talk with a person's guardian angel before they were to meet. Maybe you can try this tactic? Ask your GA to speak to her GA...also, just tell Jesus and His Blessed Mother in prayer. They'll help.

Let us know how it goes!

God Bless You!

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Posted: Dec 27 2005 at 2:49pm | IP Logged Quote Cindy

HI Jennifer-

I can relate very much as I was on the 'career' track for 10 years before quitiing to be a SAHM. (best decision I ever made)

I remember going back for my 20 year high school reunion. I went with my best friend who was running her very successful business.   As we walked in, I realized I was nervous about what the relative strangers would think of me.

My sweet and witty friend said "When they ask you what you do for a living... just say that if you tell them, you will have to kill them." and walk away. lol

Actually, now I love telling people what I do. I love talking about homeschooling and what I have learned being home with my kids. My husband and I have both changed so much from this journey and I am so thankful I don't have to work, though I did enjoy it.

And it was a weird time when I was still paying off my student loan and had quit the job the college degree got me....

Pray- ask the Holy Spirit to give you strength and you will shine with the love you have for your new vocation.

She may wish she could be at home, too.. you never know.    

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Posted: Dec 27 2005 at 3:33pm | IP Logged Quote Sarah

Keep your head up and no matter how your kids act, don't lose your composure. Be sure to make it look like you love what you're doing. (You do! So, emphasize the positive!). Its easy to play the poor me role-changing diapers, cleaning, cooking all day. . . Make sure you make yourself up a little, too (makeup, hair nice, etc.) because you'll have more confidence).

You have nothing to be ashamed about. I find time and again I have little in common with professional women. We're "not on the same page" so to speak. They usually ignore me and speak to my husband and try to impress him with their knowledge. . .maybe because he's a doctor.

I don't know what would make you feel better, but remember that JMJ are looking down upon you, and find your work valuable. Our Lord spent years quietly doing "unimportant" work. . .manual labor actually (carpentry). Its hard to want to be validated by the world. This sorrow you feel could be offered for some special intention. I wish I could think of someting else to say. Hang in there. I'm a nobody in the eyes of the world, too .





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Posted: Dec 27 2005 at 3:38pm | IP Logged Quote ladybugs

Sarah wrote:
I'm a nobody in the eyes of the world, too .


But everything in the eyes of your children...

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Posted: Dec 27 2005 at 5:41pm | IP Logged Quote cathhomeschool

Jennifer,

I pray that the Holy Spirit gives you comfort and strength, and that through this appointment you'll realize how much more you have now than you'd have if you could switch places with the nurse practitioner. I miss "working" in the outside world too sometimes, only because I enjoyed what I did, but I wouldn't give up my "job" now for anything in the world. This time with your dc passes so quickly... what a priveledge you have and what a huge blessing that you don't have to work outside the home and that you can spend time with them!

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