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Bear with me here, I wasn't sure whether I should post this here or under the fireside chat. But I wanted to get your thoughts on a thought I had.
Lately, I have been plugging away at getting a MROL folder up and running. It is a heavy job to be sure, but one I think that will be useful for our family. Also, I have been listening to tapes from here as a kind of homestyle retreat. First I listed to a tape about guardian angel; worked on praying/depending on my guardian angel more, then I listened to a tape about patience and kindess and now finally a tape about "Confession and Conpunction of Heart". In addition, I'm also using Mary Ann Budnik's "You Can Become a Saint" book and workbook as a group study with a couple of other homeschooling moms.
Alllll this info coming in has gotten me thinking (of course it has!  ) and it occurred to me that the "mommy fog" that I experience from time to time is the effects of my sins clouding my ability to perform the functions of my vocation.
Now, I'm not talking about the fog that comes from not enough food for a nursing mom, or the kind that comes from too little sleep because of a new baby. I'm talking about that wandering fog that happens and you think "I'm not tired, not hungry, WHY am I so foggy? Why can't I think what I'm to do next?" Perhaps this fog is the noose around my neck that the devil has on me from attachment to my sins? Perhaps God is letting me experience this fog more as a call to holiness.
Now as you probably can tell, I'm thinking as I'm typing (baby is sleeping so I'm gettin' whilst the gettin is good!) but after several weeks of slugging through all the MROL suggestions and accomplishing the majority of the routine this morning, I have to say my fog is diminishing. On the tape, the priest of course suggested that the 'fogs' we experience in our day are spiritual in nature and related to sin. I've heard this before but I never realized how slothful I was around the house until I started looking at how much avoiding work I'm doing and how much avoiding prayers I'm doing until I started to try to fit a MROL-like schedule into my day.
Besides MROL, I'm engaging the spritual norms suggested by Mrs. Budnik and I'm listening to a fantastic priest on tape who has very concrete suggestions about how to grow in holiness, so there is TONS going on here. But I'm beginning to really believe that the majority of my cases of mommy fog are self-inflicted due to sin, disorganization which can lead to sloth and other sins and lack of scheduled prayer life/open pathways to God.
I suppose I'm just thinking in an outward manner like a tried and true extrovert, but I also would like to encourage other mothers that may find themselves in a fog they can't explain, to not give up. My greatest motivation for personal holiness has been to be a better mom and improve my chances of raising kids that can get to heaven. But I'm of course finding much more in this search. Sorry to sound so goofy in the process  but I was inching to share my thoughts with like-minded people. And ALL of my thoughts aren't here or well formed yet, but I know that cute litte baby is going to be waking up soon and I'd better be on the ready.
I'm off to the next scheduled activity and more thinking! Opps, there she is - gotta run! 
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Hi Amie!
I know exactly what you are talking about, in fact, I was writing the same things down in my prayer journal this morning  I HATE the mommy fog- and that is exactly what it is. I was writing this morning that I become too distracted and trapped in my own thoughts and am then annoyed when the children interrupt me. It is why I flit from thing to thing and never get any thing done.
I certainly feel this is tied to sin; the sin of sloth. I know I need to discipline my will so that I serve God first (by attending to duty) and stop caving to every little whim I have. 
I am trying to use MORL with a side of Flylady. I find that the most important thing for me to do is to rise early and have morning prayer- otherwise the day is a disaster
I look forward to hearing more on this topic. Thanks Amie!
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Oh, Yea, I'm with ya. I just started reading MROL and only a few pages into it I could see what a slug I have been. Making far too many excuses for myself not doing what I need to be doing.
The thing that really struck me is when I read something to the effect that if I want God to bless my works, then I've gotta give him some works to bless!
That really got my tail in gear!
Now, like I said I just started the book, so I look forward to contributing more once I get through the book and start working my own rule.
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Amie,
That's it!! I've been feeling that way so much lately. I've read part of MROL and plan on moving on, but haven't. Instead of a new year's resolution this year, I decided on a word to signify what I wanted to change. This year is diligence. Well, I've fallen by the wayside. You have given me inspiration to get in gear.
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Amie,
I am reading MROL for the second time because I did not put any of it into practice the first time I read it! I feel very strongly convicted to deal with my own sloth/selfishness. Maybe reading your post and its responses will kick me into gear.  Tackling the "rule" seems like such an enormous task to me, though she has it broken down nicely. The thought of getting myself and my family on a schedule makes me anxious, yet, I know that the blessings would overflow into all areas of everyone's lives, just by my having a regular prayer life. Aside from prayer requests, I say a morning offering, grace at all meals, and I utter my nightime prayers as I fall asleep. I want more of a prayer life but don't seem to even know where to start.
As far as scheduling my home, I have tried MOTH and was repelled by the thought of scheduling my little ones. I don't have a regular wake up time because I allow myself to sleep in whenever the slightest snafu comes up. For those of you who keep up with Flylady...I AM FRANNY IN THE PINK SWEATS! There are dishes in the sink every morning. I cannot seem to juggle my toddler and baby, help the other two with their tablework, read aloud each day, plan, make and clean up meals, keep up with the laundry and still have an energy to spend time with my husband in the evenings, blah blah blah  . I get tired of hearing my own excuses.
Strangely enough  , I always seem to find time to check my email, post on this forum or enter in my blog. I feel that the computer is my sanity, my link to the support I need to make it through each day. I am possessive of my time on it and I am ashamed of that.
I justify our relaxed lifestyle by telling myself, "Look how much fun you and the kids are having. They are all learning so much and have a happy childhood." I have a fear that we would lose our spontaneity and not follow the "rabbit trails" of life if I got scheduled. Since I am not organized, our entire life is one rabbit trail after another which is not fun either! I think I need to find the balance.
This attitude that I have that constantly makes excuses for myself is my "fog". I don't know if it is the same thing that you all are talking about but I do want in the worst way to get out from under it.
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MROL? Can someone demystify me?
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MROL is A Mother's Rule of Life. It is a book by Holly Pierlot that helps homeschooling Mom's get their act together, basically.
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Topic: Mommy Fog/Call to holiness?
