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So refreshing to read that my ds will most likely delight college professors (if he is not in jail, LOL- KIDDING... maybe....)
This article takes a look at kids who are the products of modern parenting and how the college world perceives them- or at least one professor's take on it.
Raise a Child With a Wild Streak
I was struck by his comment that many high achievers are remarkable the same. If you read the article- what do you think?
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Great article!
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| The irony is that many students begin to perceive late in college that they’ve missed something along the way. They regret not taking risks with difficult professors, unusual courses or semesters abroad. They berate themselves by equating self-worth with grades, and they are saddened by the realization that they have only glimpsed the breadth of the university. |
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Ah, yes, this was me. I am a color-in-the-lines kind of person, and I really don't know how to foster free-spiritedness.
I appreciate his suggestions, but I also think some kids are just born that way. My oldest has my temperament to an extreme, and my second was born with mischief in his eyes.
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Well I'm pretty sure the NINE! stitches sewn into my dd 7's arm Friday evening is pretty indicative of the fact that she gets plenty of play time and try as I might to prevent risky activities, she finds them anyway! 
And my ds 14 certainly falls in alot of what they would seek but oh...me oh my...he is quite a parenting challenge though!!  But a lot of that is b/c he is drawn in this modern world to all things wired and he doesn't always make the wisest choices so it's just hard.
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So how do you encourage an inside the lines type of child to be more spontaneous, or just let go a little? How do you inspire yourself?
A lady I know decided to homeschool her children just because after a couple of years in school her dd had become a total follower, a major inside the lines type, and, as the mom put: "totally unable to think outside the box".
Her goal was to get her daughter back outside the box.
Her remedy included a lot more unstructured time in general, and more time specifically for her ballet dancing, which became a passion.
As a mom, I tend to find myself bogged down by details like laundry and meals that tend to box me in.  , One solution for me has been to get up earlier (way earlier) to have some quiet time to "unbox" myself.
I don't know if it is helping... I certainly don't feel more wild,  .
I do agree that some personality types are just naturally more free-spirited.
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I find that "brain storming" where you can write down (or share) any idea no matter how bizarre or unlikely, will help.. because even if you choose to do the "safe" inside the box things, you're still giving yourself permission to consider ideas that aren't.
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Wild- hmmmm, sounds like my dd! She is doing great in University- kind of towing the line in first year. Although she took a figure drawing studio classs as her elective- all her fellow engineering students stared in wonder at her drawing board. They all wondered why she needed it- she said it was for her elective. They all said, 'Critical Thinking'? She is a think outside the box girl!
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Great article! Check out Lori Pickert's "Project-Based Learning" to help foster this kind of thinking in a child. It has my inside-the-box little guy more determined to come up with his own ideas, and gives me ways to help support him. And as for my individualist, well, we have been known to have periodic explosions from time to time...
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